Mates who show off all the time........

[ipanemagirl]

I've got a friend who's ds is a friend of my ds and I really like her and enjoy her company generally.
But. She does show off a lot mostly about how rich/successful/interesting her friends are etc.
It's really tedious but I think I like her enough to put up with it.
Do other people just shed friends like this or put up with the irritation because their c are friends with yours???!! Can't decide what to do.

no advice but just reminded me that dh had a converstaion with his best mate last week that went.

dh "hi mate how's things"

BF "Oh mate i'm making sooo much money these days i'm loving the money just keeps rolling in"

what a wanker

perhaps you could tell about a fictional friend that is always bragging and say how much you dislike it, maybe she'll get the hint

Its got to originate from their own insecurities though hasn't it? Otherwise why feel the need to do it! "My friends are rich/successful/interesting therefore I must be too or they wouldn't be friends with me..." Clearly they don't believe it though thats why they feel the need to say it to try to convince you!

I know it must come from some insecurity but it still makes me feel deflated for some reason. I associate people bragging with people trying to put me in my place. I feel like saying to her - I like you but it makes no difference to me if your mate is rich or not!

ah well if it's making you feel bad about yourself then ditch her.

Thats what I mean though, it's not about making you feel bad, it's about her trying to make herself feel good. But agree people like that can be hard work. I deal with it by having a rant to dh later, but I've definitely distanced myself from people like this.

I just drop people who bore me like this.
Life too short and plenty of other perfectly pleasant folk in the world.

I used to have a friend like this, booorrring. All the time she would say 'my dh is soo good looking, my child is perfect, we're buying the biggest best house ever, im like the luckiest, most blessed person in the world' etc etc... Literally these words. For a whole year! I dont get it, I tried to put up with it for ages. Seriously though... Why do people do this???

I don't have a friend like that, but the ol' my cousin's cousin is like this.

Of course my mum sent me this email about what is going on with 'Alicia' and how she is 40 and having her fourth and her fab doctor husband and blah blah blah.

I just wrote back, 'Mom, we always thought she was a such a bitch. Who cares?'

I ditch people like this.

Really don't have time to waste on folk like this.

oh god i wish i had dumped my one earlier. i thought it was me.. I'm more of the well if your that fecking great surely the rest of the world would be singing your praises rather than you doing it yourself. the proof would be in the pudding so to speak.
Maybe if you met the friends you could decide for yourself if they are great or not. Maybe she's making it all up. maybe its the same person i was friends with.

It's odd isn't it to show off about how rich/ successful her friends are?

I mean, showing off about how successful she herself is I can just about understand (although it is not very palatable)....

I like people like this - they are fun to listen to as they spout their insecurities.

She must think a lot of you if it means so much to her that she has to impress you!

Step MIL is a bit like that. She is always telling us money related things - like how much she got for her endowment claim, and how much she got back in bank charges and how much of a pay rise she got and how long it was back dated for. Then she says to me "How many CM children dop you have" when I answer she then says "ooh you must be rolling in it{hmm], how much do you make a week".
Her BIL is a consultant gynie and her sister is a "lady who lunches" and step MIl is always going on about how much money her sister has and the holidays they go on etc etc.
Boring

My fil is like this, he goes on about their rich friends blah blah blah,(he actually says rich friends aswell) their mansion of a house, we'll have to take u to see it a few yrs ago we went to one of their friends sons weddings, didn't hear the end of it about all the mega expensive stuff they were having etc.
Doesn't impress me either, i did hear that with men they keep friends if there is something they can gain materially from the friendship. Don't know really if this is true or like others have said an insecuirty thing? All in know is that it's a bit shallow for people to go on about it.

I had a friend like this. She would blether on about how much this, that and the other cost her and her DP.

Her wedding plans really got boring! The cost of everything got relayed to me including a wedding photo album that cost over £1k. Imagine that - silly mare. Why did she think I cared how much these things cost?

I got tired of oohing and aaahing in all the right places. We had a row over my not being grateful enough for a favour she did me - my numerous thank yous weren't sufficient and she was ditched.

Bin the boring people who are obsessed with money, I say.

question
Do you really think it is due to insecurity or do you think it is due to massive self-love, ie I am simply the best and I wont stop telling you until you all think it too
???
i had a friend like this.... once...
never again!

If you like her enough to put up with it, maybe you could simply change the subject when she brings up friends etc.

I have a good friend who used to constantly talk about her other friends - she didn't get it that I just wasn't interested in whether this witty friend said this or that, or how funny it all was. However she doesn't do it any more and was definitely worth hanging in there for until we became close enough to talk about more important things.