Don’t know how to meet someone?

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I don’t fancy online dating.

Have been single for a long time now!

I'm in the same boat but persevering with OLD Just not holding out much hope. I am talking to this one guy atm but who knows if it'll go anywhere. Can you join a local club/hobby type thing? Something you're interested in to meet new people??

There is a thread on this almost every week or at least every other week. Maybe worth doing a search as the same answers get trotted out each time.

That’s me told.

Do you work? Do you have any interests? Do you go to a place of worship at all? Do you have children? Have you heard of Meet Up?
We need a bit more info to go on!

How could Shatner have said that any more politely, exactly? It's a useful tip, no-one's "telling you".

I didn't mean it to come out that way, OP. As someone who has been single 8 years, I sympathise. I just mean you may find more answers on past threads as because it's such a recurring thread topic, sometimes it doesn't get as much response as you might like.

I met my now dh the old fashioned way - in a bar!!

A bit of a cliche, but stop looking! I tried OLD last year and got fed up of it so decided to have a break from dating for a bit. Lo and behold, that very same week I got chatting to a guy in my local pub one night and we're now an item!

Fair enough Shatners, no worries

Swicth the focus from meeting a partner to meeting new friends? Widening your social circle increases the chance of meeting new potentials.

Could do this by joining a running club or a gym, but not a big one, a small independent one. IME, these types of clubs tend to have quite active and inclusive social buzzes. They tend to organise a few group nights out, random outings up a mountain and charity runs/bikerides etc.

Do any of your friends have single friends, brothers etc? Pretty much every relationship I've ever had has been with someone who I met via someone else.

Also as Philodox mentioned maybe try the Meetup app. It's not online dating it will tell you some local groups who meet up for drinks, days out etc it's a good way of expanding your social circle which could lead to meeting someone.

Friends of mine in their thirties or forties who have been lucky in meeting people, tend to have wide social circles and they're out and about a lot.

I also know people who met their second husbdsd/wives at work.

My social life revolves around coffees with friends, cinema with colleagues, going to football matches, or going to people's houses for lunch/dinner. I also watch loads of telly, home alone. That's why I'm still single! I don't have "hobbies" and I don't go "out out". If I decide I'm sick of singledom I know what I'll need to do.

I have lots of hobbies. Im a member of 5 sports clubs, volunteer with a local charity, and am involved with a direct action group. Plus I work and go to uni. To be honest I dont come across many single men in a context that they could be approached in almost all of those things. Sorry......

Except the direct action group!

Im not single so have never made any moves obviously but it wouldnt be inappropriate. There is a decent mix of men and women, and a mixture of ages. They also have this specific thing we care a lot about in common. Might not be very helpful as its not everyones cup of tea, but worth bearing in mind. Same applies to other political interest groups although I have found the local political party group has no men under about 55-60. Most 65+.

If you are looking for someone 40+ ish sports clubs and gyms may become a better place than for a younger bloke (young men in chain gyms are typically fucking unbearable, but I speak to some of the older guys and they seem nice).

Have you tried singles events?