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Dh's Ex Wife- Aaaaaaaaaaagh!

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KookySpooky · 21/05/2007 12:41

Hi! I've been lurking for a little while reading how good and insightful the messages are on here and decided to post my situation (venting mostly!)
Met my Dh 4 years ago,he'd been dumped by his wife of 9 years for the lodger-she's been married 4 times with 7 children (5 Dads)
The marriage had really been over for years so Dh was more relieved than anything else,he was only upset at the thought of not seeing the kids everyday.The family relationships were very amicable at the start,they got married 2003 and we wed a year after,so amicable we were top table at each other's weddings!
Things between us were friendly until they started to fall apart,then it appears she's one of those people who can only be happy for others as long as she's happy too!
They've now decided to end their volatile marriage and she's extremely bitter that we're happy together,it took a while for me to see what she's really like,she lies to everyone around her (including her children),makes up stories to try to cover her tracks,tries to manipulate everyone to do what she wants and she is the most competitive parent I've ever known!
For the past year and a half it's been made obvious to us that we're (especially me!) unwelcome in HER family!The exception to this is Xmas when she gets friendly with us again to basically put on a pretence to everyone that it's all hunky dory-then of course after New Year it's back to hating us!
I'm at the point now where I've just had enough of the hostility,lies and manipulations that when Dh goes to pick his children up dd (1 year)and I stay at home and do the same when he takes them back,the last couple of months have been quite nice !

Thanks for reading,does anyone else have any stories of dealing with ex partners?

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LoveAngel · 21/05/2007 12:44

Sounds like you've answered your own question. You should have as little as possible to do with her, and your OH should limit contact to stuff that involves the kids. That's probablty not only the easiest but also the healthiest arrangement all round. xxx

KookySpooky · 21/05/2007 12:56

Thank you,yes I'd be happy for it to stay like this,less stressful and uncomfortable!

She said to Dh a couple of weeks ago that getting together with her last husband was the worst mistake she'd ever made! basically says "I wish I hadn't dumped you,the grass wasn't greener!" Well tough titty-you did!

As an aside it was far from her worst mistake in other peoples eyes but I can't really go into detail as don't want to get recognised!

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