Broken up what does this mean

[mumofthreesmallmen3]

I split with my boyfriend of nearly a year, things haven't been good for around a month now..hes been distant not seen him much and cane to a head last night. I actually can't stop crying :( he says he does love me still and care for me but we can't keep going round in circles and were both not happy. Does this mean there is a chance to sort things or he's made his mind up. He hasn't answered my last text. I feel like he's already out but why still say that stuff, I know I will be ok but it just feels so weird I can't call him anymore and I don't want to start again I don't want to see any other men.

I'm sorry to hear that you've split with your boyfriend. It can be very difficult, be kind to yourself. But yes, to me it sounds like it's over, particularly as he's been distancing himself for the last month. I think he's trying to let you down gently.

I know it's daunting to be single, but try not to look at it as starting again. A year in is still very early in relationship terms and most year-long relationships don't make it to five years. It's not starting again, so much as beginning a new chapter of your life. Be single for a while before you jump into something new.

Have some and or . Give yourself a day or so to grieve for the relationship. But then it's time to move on.

I just want to text him but I know it's going to make things worse, I dunno I just feel like I really want to talk to him. The things we've been rowing about are small things and can be sorted I just don't think he cares enough. I don't know why but I've got a feeling he has been speaking to someone else and it's really hurting to think he might of been seeing her this last month and texting calling her instead of me.

I saw him last week and he said he loved me, everything was normal then, then since he seems to be distant with me for no reason, now saying all this. The day after I saw him he wasn't reachable after 9pm and didbt get back to me until lunchtime the next day saying he just woke up I've just got a horrible feeling he was with her and that's why been so cold since. Or i might be being irrational and crazy I don't know I haven't said of this doubt to him I don't want to look insecure

He’ll probably be thinking the small things can’t be sorted as you had time to sort them but, didn’t. I do think people have a tipping point, when they think “enough” & it sounds like he’s in that space.
Don’t think a text will make any difference at the moment sadly.

There are exceptions but in general feelings don't turn off overnight so even though he thinks the relationship is over he'll still have feelings for you, that's probably what he meant by that. Please stop texting him. Get some friends or family round to look after you and try to keep busy. Worrying about who he may or may not be in contact with is not going to help you either.

What soap says rings true. It's time to move on and, however painful it is now, will feel better down the line. There's no point being in a relationship that you are unhappy in.

It does hurt, but it will be ok in the end 💐

Good luck op.

I know :( I wont contact him I don't want to look desperate, he knows how I feel about him so there's nothing really else to say is there

I've had this before, and it's horrible so I feel for you.

All everyone said to me was time is a healer (which I found really annoying), but it's so true! A few months of feeling sorry for myself went by and then I was left wondering why I'd wasted so much time on someone who was clearly wrong for me!

You will be ok, but it's also normal and ok for you to be struggling so don't put too much pressure on yourself - and pizza helps x

We have spoken today about things, how we deal with things were completely different he's got a stronger personality than me he's stubborn and not that emotional and will take his time whereas I'm opposite i can get quite emotional and I blurt everything out I don't think it helps me! But he's now saying he hasn't gone off me he just isn't sure about the long run I dunno what it means I feel like he's softening up but I'm not sure

I think it probably means the other girl isn't available.

Sorry, but I think you have to throw this one back. You just aren't compatible. Move on, find someone who adores you and doesn't play these sorts of games.

Cake is good too.

He’s keeping you on the back burner in case she isn’t a runner. Sorry to be blunt OP but save yourself the heartbreak and exit with your head held high.

Oh really didn't think of that. I don't know if there was a girl though I just had a feeling i can be quite Insecure though, he could of gone more distant recently because he's been unsure of the long run? Or u think Not?

Sorry to hear this OP it's shot and I feel for you! I do think you should take him at face value as in if he says he's had enough try not to contact him. I know it will be hard but you can do this. Make yourself unavailable to him should he ever come running back. You need to allow your feelings to be without him messing with your head. Don't contact him, you will be tempted but it will be painful f you do. If he does contact you just ignore (unless you have kids to sort out together). Just keep busy, look after yourself.

He may decide in future he would like to renew a relationship with you. Make sure you're in a healthier head space before you decide what's best for you. Xx

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