Husbands "work wife"

[Issame]

About a year ago i discovered my husband was texting and then deleting messages from a new woman at his work. I confronted him about it and told him he had obviously crossed a line if he felt the need to delete the messages.
We moved on and things are ok on the surface but a year down the line I still think about it and feel anxious whenever he is on his phone (which is basically all the bloody time!) Not sure if I should bring it up again or try to forget about it. I think I'm quite a naive person though. I've always said I trust him 100% but now I don't which is a horrible feeling. Any advice or has anyone else had to deal with the dreaded "work wife"?

My DH has a 'work wife' who he works with about 3 days a week... They get on well, they yell at each other sometimes, and also have some giggles. She rants at him on FB about how frustrated she is, and classes him as a good friend, who she trusts, and she hugs him occasionally (like when he has done her a big favour at work.) She is a single mom - 2 kids aged 14-16ish.

But she is also my friend, and talks to me quite a lot, and sends me a card, and a gift for my birthday, and also for Christmas... And DH and our kids too (and we buy for her and her kids!)

She goes to her country of origin (left there 20 years ago) every year, and brings us all goodies back. She tells people she thinks of me as a sister, and DH as a brother.

I am often invited to the works nights out, and she always sits near me and DH, and is very friendly, and a really nice woman.

I think if your husband's 'work wife' doesn't know you (or want anything to do with you,) that is a worry, but my husband's 'work wife' is as friendly with me as she is with him - so I am not bothered or worried.

Other women have a right to be worried of course; everyone is different.

The situation in the OP sounds like it WAS a bit suspect. If you have no proof @issame if your DH is still up to anything, then try not to worry. Do keep an eye on things though.

Hope you're OK.

Work wife? #puke
Absolutely gross term, degrading to women and their role in the workplace. The concept (& posts here) suggests that these working men can't function properly without the back up and guidance of a 1950s style wife in the workplace and the real wife should be grateful?!
I have never heard the phrase work husband....
I was seeing a guy who had a supposed work wife, of course it transpired he had a huge crush on her and was making her feel useful and indispensable to keep her around.
He also had a huge superiority complex and loved getting her to do all his menial and boring jobs.

Dragonfly just because you haven't heard the term doesn't mean it doesn't exist. The work wives have to have a work husband..does that also degrade men?
You won't like that term because of your experiences, but your ex didn't have a work wife he had a crush and was looking for maybe more and whatever other issues he had with women.
A work wife/husband is a friend.

I've never felt personally degraded or that my role has been degraded by being a work wife. And there's no chance of my work husband getting me to do his menial jobs but I do print things out & check info for him when he requests (part of my job) & make him coffee... in the same way he'll get me things that I request in the scope of his job, make me coffee & bring me food.

His actual wife is grateful - because he's moaned at me all day she doesn't have to listen to him moaning at night

@dragonfly I know when I'm referred to as the work wife it's very much tongue in cheek and it's just a joke. We are more like best friends... I do loads of odd jobs for him that he's useless at like IT stuff but likewise he helps me with stuff I can't do etc neither are degrading in anyway. In re to earlier posts etc, I think as in any situation if your husband or partner is honest and talks about them / has no problem with you seeing them on works night's out etc it's fine. If it's shifty or being hidden then there's a problem

Why not just call them a work friend then?