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help and advice please - don't know what to do

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lloydjam · 05/06/2018 16:21

Im really desperate for anyone to offer advice or thoughts or anything really as I'm going round in circles and think I'm going mad..

For the past year my husband has been very distant with me - withholding all affection (no kisses , hand holding etc and the only sex was when i instigated it). We have spoken and but when i bring this up he says he doesn't know what he wants but he has told me though he loves me he's not in love with me anymore. He says there is no one else and i do believe him.We have agreed to counselling and he says he wants to make things work- i had my first this week and he's going on his own next week. hopefully we can then go together. I want to make things work (for the sake of our children etc) and we will have been married 25 years this year but my thoughts are i don't know how he can make himself want to be affectionate with me again . I don't think i can live for the rest of my life without affection and intimacy (I'm 50 next year and feel that there is still life in me still). I'm desperate for any advice as I'm struggling with thoughts that its all over but also that there may be hope. I'm so very sad. thank you

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hellsbellsmelons · 05/06/2018 16:58

Ahhh... the old 'I love you but not IN love with you' line!
I would imagine there is someone else but sometimes people do just fall out of love.
The relationship runs it's course and there's nothing anyone can do about it.

So what if never gets resolved?
What does separation look like for you?
How old are the DC?
Do you work?

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