I’m a young 52yr old mum ,2 grown up daughters ,27yrs & 25 yrs ,I brought them up myself for 22yrs along side a nursing career on and off .after they moved out with their boyfriends I moved in with my boyfriend and we,ve been engaged 3.5 yrs . He has 4 children 24yrs ,18yrs,17yrs and an 8 yr old whose mother has said she doesn’t want him with her so has handed him over to his dad to look after 10mths ago . This little boy does and says whatever he wants and never gets pulled up on his language ,the way he demands his dad to do things I.e bring me some milk etc I’m getting very anxious about it . Especially as I never brought my children up to be rude or to continuously ask for things they New I couldn’t afford ! The mother of this little boy tells me that their child and her ex (my fiancé) are nothing to do with me when it comes to their son ,however ,I am now the one doing the gruelling stuff for him that she can no longer is willing to do as a mother ! My fiancé does his best to keep piece all round but it shouldn’t be like that ,I feel that if you let your child stay up till we go to bed ,constantly be in our face if we go into the kitchen for a coffee even at 11pm before bed ,we,re never going to get any piece EVER . I have tried asking if his son could have a bedtime ie 9pm (he’s 8yrs old ) but it only happens for 1msybe 2 nights then the 8yr olds plays up winning till his dad gives in over what his son wants . It’s so draining being s step parent to be I’m wondering if it’s sctually going to be worth it even though my fiancé and I are great on our own when we do our hobby together it’s great . There must be other girls out there in similar position ??????