Sensitivity and retreating from the world ...

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Name-changed for this.

I have just seen a review given about me online - its complicated but basically this person lied in an odd way about me (it was AirBNB). Yet I had given her place a good review despite my issue (neighbours noise which I didn't mention as I felt for her and didn't want her to lose business - the irony!)

I feel my heart racing, I feel angry, tearful and disappointed all at the same time. And I'm thinking, I wish I wasn't sensitive like this, I really do , its such a drag.

I'm not always like this, most of the time I'd say I'm quite a calm, positive, strongish person. But suddenly I'll feel agitated and am struggling with life due to my sensitivity - I can't put it any other way.

Have recently been considering taking on a voluntary role (fairly responsible) but now I am thinking - best not to - when things can "affect" me this way emotionally. Its a shame as I think I have a lot to offer. Another relevant factor might be I don't have much support in real life, partner, etc. So I'm re-thinking as to whether this voluntary role is something I should do.

Any words of wisdom ....? So pissed off with myself.

I find there's lots of weird people online so I would try not to let it get to you (I know easier said than done.) If you think the review was false could you have it removed? Sorry not familiar with air b n b.

I would never do air B n B for this reason. Too personal being in someone’s home...

I think it would be a step back not to take the role.

Many people are sensitive types, they learn to manage it in every day life.

It sounds like you have work to do in yourself to strengthen and become more resilent emotionally. Taking on a responsible role could be part of this development.

Sensitive is good. Means that you can have the emotional range to have empathy for others which means you will be a star at the volunteering role.

Some people are cold, calculating fuckers - swerve them - or dont take their attacks personally.

I think that you have handled this really well - you have listened to your feelings - you were hurt - its OK to feel distressed and communicate and express yourself when this happens. You have thought it through, not reacted inappropriately and sought opinion to balance and add perspective. That is emotional resilience.

Thanks another

Interestingly, someone mentioned this article in a thread on MN a couple of days ago.

www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/emotional-freedom/201602/10-traits-empathic-people-share