Who is the rebound in this situation?

[richdeniro]

Woman gets divorced from husband of 10ish years in around January 2017.

Dates another guy in October/November 2017.

Dates me from Jan-April 2018.

Dumps me and within 2 weeks is back with the guy she dated for a few weeks in Oct/November.

Her ex-husband and myself are very caring sensitive intelligent people whereas the guy she is back with now is much more your alpha male type guy.

I think you probably both are. Give her a couple of months, and she'll probably bounce back to you. Or her exH. I would avoid until she works out what she wants/settles down a bit. Or maybe she's just playing the field...

Why does it matter? Move on.

I would not be hanging around in case she comes back to you again. If she does, you'll only wonder if she'll do it again.

OP - you already posted about her and you....
Really, just move on.
You and her are in different phases of your life.
She had her kids, and did the right thing of setting you free to find someone your age, who will have your kids.

Maybe she is on a rebound. And just needs an alpha type for now to take a break, to re-set, to ... whatever. After her 10 year marriage - that ended unhappily - she can do whatever she wants....

Move on!!!!!

I recognised you also.

It’s over with this woman, for now at the very least. In your last thread you even suspected she was back with this guy behind your back. You’ve initiated contact since, she openly told you about her new relationship, you sent her a heartfelt message which she ignored.

Just because two of you are similar and one is very different, doesn’t mean that is her preference.

Move on and stop torturing yourself.

When I left I floated around with no idea what I wanted - due to DC I didn't actually get into relationships but definitely after coming out of a marriage- you're a bit lost and unsure even when you think you know what you want.

Move on OP. I'm years on and still figuring out, likely she will take a while too