Hi I'm new to the site and joined for some advice and support. I am currently about to go through a divorce and really needed some advice on the above.
My husband lead a double life for years without me knowing. He had become withdrawn and tired and would go to bed early and get up in the night "for the loo". My 10yr old daughter was on his laptop one day and a message popped up from a woman who he had been talking too. I knew something was going on and long story short spent all night looking at his online accounts and on his phone.
For nearly 3 years (maybe more) he had been on chat sites and groups talking sexually to men and women. He had created fake profiles as men and a woman and I found he had made profiles on dating sites. When I looked at the times and dates it shocked me to my core ....Xmas day and mine and dd birthdays ..taking nude pics of himself and asking for sex chat. Sharing images from porn sites etc etc. I kicked him out. He did go to the doctor months later who said he had an addiction but my husband only went to counselling a couple of times. He had told me he had stopped and asked to come back but he was still tired and withdrawn and I found out 2 more times he was still doing it. He would see our daughter and leave early saying he was "tired" and she would be upset. He wouldnt want to talk to me about it and eventually stopped coming to see his daughter 11 months ago.
Sorry for the long story but I would like to know what other peoples opinions are and what they would have done? Is what he did being unfaithful or not? I cant see how he would of had the time to actually meet anyone and hes shy etc...he said he used it as a coping mech as he had depression. Would just like opinions please Thank you x