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tell us of mid life crises you haev witnessed

95 replies

CODalmighty · 21/05/2007 08:37

it ttends to be new car
leather jcaket
divorce ime

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tatt · 21/05/2007 09:19

onetime boss left his (lovely) wife for someone who clearly thought he was wonderful (he wasn't). Her family (devout catholics, lived abroad) put a lot of pressure on her and she returned to her husband. Don't know what happened to my former boss, didn't keep in touch when I changed jobs, but I doubt his wife was daft enough to have him back.

lou33 · 21/05/2007 09:34

yes i was being sarcastic

he's making my blood boil right now ( i made a thread in chat)

lou33 · 21/05/2007 09:35

ooh cod, do you know anything about where i stand by refusing to let him onto my property?

ootslooj · 21/05/2007 09:36

what's 'mid-life'????

CODalmighty · 21/05/2007 09:48

sorry no
is it your hosue rather than his?

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Yacketyblah · 21/05/2007 10:02

Ha! funnily enough my stupid twunt of a db and his fancy woman have been taking long rides on a motor bike too.

MrsBadger · 21/05/2007 10:05

I am too young to know

crises of my acquaintance so far include coming back from Asia, getting proper job, selling the motorbike / sports car, marrying, settling down, having kids etc.

lots of people had Career Crises 3-5yrs after graduating though - esp people who started in city jobs then kicked it in to train guide dogs, become teachers / nurses / physios etc, do PhDs, go freelance, set up their own business etc.

KTeePee · 21/05/2007 10:07

As someone once said to me, women tend to just start buying more clothes, bags and jewellery, men buy impractical cars (2 seater Porsche when you've got 4 kids, eg), grow hair longer/on face, or sooo predictably have affairs...

PersonalClown · 21/05/2007 10:08

My parents are well into theirs.
My mum seems to be tying to recapture her 'yoof' by drinking till she falls over or clubbing with my 22 year old db.
My dad is fitting into the popular choice here. The motorbike.
But it's worse...He got a Harley!! Although he spent a year lovingly restoring it and does spend a lot of time out on it up and down the country, but only if it's dry. He won't go out in the rain!!

dinosaur · 21/05/2007 10:08

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BettySpaghetti · 21/05/2007 10:12

One of the Dads at school had his ear pierced to recapture his younger years -it became infected and swelled up massively.

A friend of ours bought a sports car and, knowing his wife wouldn't approve, garaged it somewhere else so she wouldn't find out. We persuaded him that if he valued his marriage he needed to either tell his wife or get rid of it (he did the latter).

CODalmighty · 21/05/2007 10:14

yes i am so wiht it man.

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Cammelia · 21/05/2007 10:16

Several divorces going on at amongst school families I know at the moment, including one father who has come out and gone off with his boyfriend. Funnily enough they've all just turned 40/about to turn 40.

I feel v. sorry for their children.

Boco · 21/05/2007 10:20

My dad has been having bi-annual ones since he was about 24. The most spectacular was a few years ago when he quit his job and ran off to france to be with another woman. He decided to write a novel.
My stepmother (scary) went and fetched him and brought him home when the other woman stole all his stuff and he realised that he couldn't do his own washing and cooking. And the novel wasn't going too well either.

My stepdad has taught himself to play the guitar, joined a band and had a tattoo. He already did the motorbike thing. Now he's modelling himself on the grandad from Little Miss Sunshine. (Durdle dont come and tell me off, you know it's true!)

dinosaur · 21/05/2007 10:20

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lou33 · 21/05/2007 10:24

the lease is in my name only

Carmenere · 21/05/2007 10:29

Well this poses an interesting question for my particular group of friends because they/we are all in out late 30's and I wonder if any of us will go through mid-life crises as we all put off growing up for as long as humanly possible. I mean most of my mates resisted marraige, kids and mortgages until their 30's so they are hardly due a crises just a few years later. I mean will this generation breed a load of 50 yr olds on motorbikes in leather trousers?

OtterInnit · 21/05/2007 10:32

a lot of men in my town have knob- jockey cars around their fortieth

OtterInnit · 21/05/2007 10:34

i think this may be my mini crisis purchase!

NKF · 21/05/2007 11:11

Using phrases like "being held back" and "needing to find out who one truly is".

Issymum · 21/05/2007 11:23

Mr IssyMum's mid-life crisis:

Mr IM (last night in bed): Do you think I'd look good with a beard?
Me: No, you'd look like a twat.
Mr IM: What about a small moustache?
Me: You'd look like a facist twat.
Mr IM: Handle-bar moustache?
Me: Twat with confused sexuality.

End of Mr IM's mid-life crisis.

Meanwhile I weep at my computer, see the words 'Is This It?' writ large in the sky, start writing a novel and stop after the first page, find the fact that on the balance of probabilities God doesn't exist almost unbearable, endure rampant envy of my more successful university contemporaries and weep some more when I look down at my cleavage and realise that it's getting a little ahem crepey.

It's in the blood. My father hit his mid-forties, bought a very large grand piano, took up a post in Germany for two years and had an affair and then married a woman fifteen years younger than him. Although, to his credit, no inappropriate snogging was ever witnessed.

Tortington · 21/05/2007 11:24

pmsl @issymum mustache scenario.

i am having one. i am going to have large pink swathes in my hair.

Carmenere · 21/05/2007 11:26

I actually think that pink swathes through your hair would suit you Custy, go for it.

Tortington · 21/05/2007 11:28

TA! will do.

Boco · 21/05/2007 11:29

Issymum, bit worried you might be my long lost sister