Still miss crush from years ago

[Seriousquestion09]

Is it meaningful if he updates his Facebook profile on my birthday with meaningful message (religious) and pictures of daffodils. He never really posts on Facebook and is do private about his personal life.

Guy I was crushing on for years... in fact I know we were crushing on each other and it just could not work out due to religious issues (he being strict Muslim and me Christian). I still am very fond of him and have moved on and I’m sure he has too. He never updates his Facebook btw just happened to do it in my birthday.

I know it seems childish somewhat but I really know he was very fond of me for quite sometime. Not hoping to get anything out of this just curious!

It depends, are you both still single?

Why couldn't a muslim/Christian relationship work? You wouldn't be the first ones and I'm sure not the last.

I don’t know but why not message him?

Well it’s complicated he has a way with the ladies and essentially is a player... we were friendly as a group eating out together and helping each other with work but discovered that he was actually married though claiming to be single on Facebook (think wife back home and as far as we know no kids)

It was most likely arranged marriage and his sister is strict Muslim wearing hijab though with him he is not particularly strict at all though I know he fasts doesn’t smoke etc I know he was unhappy with the things. He recently joked to one of us that he has a new girlfriend! We went out for dinner once and he seemed particularly annoyed when I told him about a guy I had dated few times and nothing serious happened and proceeded to ring this guy and invite him to our dinner!

All this makes him totally unsuitable but I often reminisce type thing

We are all supposed to be meeting up for a friends wedding and he may be coming so my plan is to be disinhibited (slightly tipsy) and talk to him then! My friend who is getting married joked if we both don’t have plus ones she is just seating us together!

I guess it doesn’t help that he is dedicated to family back home (war torn country)!and work (and he works hard think high pressured job) as do I.

I’m sorry but it sounds like a recipe for heartbreak and disaster 💐

If he's married, I don't think you should engage at all. If he is unhappy in his marriage because he wasn't able to marry for love, he needs to work that out for himself rather than pretend to be single and take on girlfriends.

I also probably don’t think you actually ‘miss him’
You were intrigued about the FB post on your birthday but this could have been incidental or, as you have already said, him being a player.

Well miss him maybe not right terms, I really don’t think it was a coincidence as he posted something quite religious and I know over last few years he has become more religious and reserved. I think I overstated the player thing he indeed is a charmer with the ladies and to be honest he is gorgeous think tan skin, green eyes basically an Arabic version of Bond and he clearly knows it. I don’t think he has had lots of girlfriends in reality.

Could your birthday be on a day of religious significance for Muslims.

You'll only ever be a bit on the side for him. If he's strick enough to have an arranged marriage he's not going to leave his wife for you, it would likely mean losing all his family and being ostracised from his community.