Pregnant and not sure what to do!

[Selladoor]

Oh god. I've messed up. Had a few drinks with a male friend about 3 weeks ago and one thing led to another... I've had a positive pregnancy test result. I know this guy really well and have known him for years but this was NOT planned. We're very unlikely to end up in a relationship and it's just not a good place in my life for me to have a baby... yes should have thought about this before sleeping with him and in my 30s I should have known better. What the he'll should I do, tell him? Or tell him only if I make a firm decision to continue with the pregnancy?

Thanks so much, MyHeartBelongsTo. I was told 5 years ago I was very likely to be infertile, also we'd both been tested after coming out of previous relationships. I've already said I fucked up, how in any way was your comment helpful? Is that what you would say to a friend in this horrible situation?

For the other lovely pps asking, he was really lovely to me, but didn't really give me a way forward as to how he would like to proceed, just as 'long as I'm happy and ok'. I really want to keep this baby, and if I can work out a way to financially, then I will.

*I really want to keep this baby
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Do that then. Finances will work out, one way or another. You have a good job and he sounds decent, so you are way ahead of many.

Good luck

Its so easy to not shag or stick a condom on. Guess what is also "so easy" ... not being a judgemental arse.

got to agree..she never came to be judged but for advice..go elsewhere on your high horse...

anyway OP you can do it hun..you will be ok either way because he seems ok and maintaining that friendship might lead to something else hint hint...good luck

OP I think you decided haven't you? But do come me back to tell us officially. I'd like to congratulate you then.

I think I know what I want, but I have 2 massive concerns: my health and finances. My ex (who I remain great friends with) is a brilliant nutritionist and a specialist with my condition and he's going to talk me through some plans which could hopefully raise my energy levels, which will obviously be vital! The debts I'm paying at the moment are affordable NOW, but won't be if I'm paying a whack in childcare bills. I've took my head out the sand, swallowed my pride and have contacted a company who will hopefully help me set up a manageable plan based on my future projected outgoings. Should that look positive, I will absolutely need to arrange another discussion with the father!

@Selladoor please only use Step Change regarding the debt! I work in this area and they are a charity, the others aren't!

PM if you want more help.

Thank you! That's such a relief as that's who I have contacted so thank you so much for posting!

That's great @Selladoor, good luck!