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I've realised he isn't & never was a good dp.

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NickyNora · 03/06/2018 21:32

I have finally seen the 'light...

I had an operation on my eyes last week. I've developed an infection. Do you know what my dp did? Nothing.

Wouldn't even take the youngest out so I could have a rest. I asked him 4 times.

On Friday evening, I got upset as i felt awful & he was ignoring me. I was trying to talk to him so he told me he'd move out in August after his holiday.

I'm so stupid, he always been like this. I was always so grateful to him for going to work. For not cheating/drinking/gambling that I thought I hag a good partner...

Now I realise he's selfish, tight with money & uncaring.

I will not waste any more time.

I need to sort financial stuff out asap & get him out of my life.

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Godotsarrived · 03/06/2018 21:37

Well done for realising this and making plans to move on and out. Do you have real life support? You have made the right decision OP. Keep strong.

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NickyNora · 03/06/2018 21:44

Nope no RL support & 2 dc have ASD. Part of the reason I've tolerated him. Ds are very challenging but I've managed to get them both Personal Budgets so i will be able to employ Carers.
Not perfect but a help

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SingleDingle · 03/06/2018 21:47

so he told me he'd move out in August after his holiday.

His holiday?? Without his family? Eh, no. Tell him to get gone. His holiday is not your concern.

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NickyNora · 03/06/2018 22:08

@singledingle His allovated Annual Leave was for tbe end of June.
Brilliant, i thought we could go abroad. My boys schools are special schools so they always give permission for term time holidays.
Oldest dc will have completed her GCSEs & youngest doesn't start school til September.

We've never been on holiday out of the UK. So he then changed his Annual Holidays after I had said all this. One of those weeks one of the dc(13) is at a residential camp. Which was booked & (i) paid for months-ago.

So my dc (13) & i won't be able to go on our family holiday. He paid £1,200 for a chalet in Gt Yarmouth.
I'm furious at him. It makes no sense. He won't explain why he changed his holidays.

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Cambionome · 03/06/2018 22:37

He is a horrible person. Run for the hills op and enjoy the rest of your life without this vile man.

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