Should I feel guilty?

[Fulltimeponderer]

I work in a very male orientated job and have a lot of male friends due to the sports I play etc. My fiance is fine with this and gets on with my male colleagues well.
One particular man who I'm friendly with and also knows my fiance messaged me one Saturday night out of the blue to ask me about something work orientated..then went on to call me beautiful and that he thought I was amazing? I was gobsmacked He's older than me and married I laughed it off. I know his wife and they seemed a strong couple but he then told me his marriage was on the rocks?
I really don't want to speak to this guy anymore but I have to due to work, I can't tell my fiance because we are going through a rough patch and I feel this would make things worse.
Really unsure what to do maybe I'm looking into it too much...

Maybe he was drunk? Not acceptable anyway did you reply to him?

Best to be honest, and dependant on how much you see him at work or how well acquainted you are depends on the way forward. You can still remain professional at work, and yet be assertive with him about any contact he makes with you out of working hours.

Id advise him either via text or to his face (sooner rather than later), that this was inappropriate behaviour, and made you feel uncomfortable, then also perhaps delete/block his number for future?

unless you need to keep his number for work puropses... in that case, just don't reply to him if he tries to contact you again out of office hours, and leave communication for work hours.....then he will definitely get the picture, and I am sure he will pursue other distractions from his current personal issues.

When it comes to your partner, I don't know the circumstances of your relationship issues etc....so I don't feel I can comment on that.

I've been ignoring him the past few days. Not maliciously but more avoiding him and I've woken up to 2 texts and a missed call... so I'm definitely going to have to speak to him about it.
I don't believe I've ever done anything to lead him on anyway as I wouldn't go near a married man let alone someone who's 16 years older than me.
Thanks for the advice very disappointed that someone would ruin a work friendship like this but I guess that's what some men are like!

Only you know your own relationship, but are you 100% certain that talking to your partner about this would do damage? Surprising as it may seem, men also have 6th senses and intuition. He may already thing something isn't right. Most people have a tendency to think the worst, in the absence of any contrary information. He probably knows there's something going on that you're not telling him about.

Is it possible that discussing what is clearly a big problem for you with you partner would do good rather than harm?

I agree with the above comment also, communication with your partner is important. It’s important to share, and will build trust and understanding and respect, and yes, if he knows you well enough he will know when something is wrong, and your failure to communicate can lead to him misplacing what the issue is....It is even more so important to communicate with both parties, as this incident has led to more calls and contact out of work hours, which is why it is worth nipping it in the bud sooner rather than later.
You can’t stop people trying to intrude on your life, but you can assert yourself and set your boundaries, and it will make you feel better, and others around you see the strength and the respect you have for yourself and your partner.

Can’t say I agree with the ‘that’s men for you’ statement as I think people in general can be a challenge to one another. I’ve had issues with both sexes being unreasonable in the workplace
and invading my life out of work as a result of their attitudes.

All the best, It will sort itself out, and it’s annoying that this has happened but hope you can get something out of it by communicating your boundaries and sharing your experience with your partner.

Apologies, just realised I misread what you said and agree with you that this is what ’some men are like ‘

I read it too quickly and reacted too hastily ...haha!