Am i overreacting to husband secretly sending high fives to ex on facebook

[Patty79]

I've been with my husband for 21 years since I was 17, 2 girls and another baby due in 8 weeks. I was on the laptop earlier and had a nosy on his Facebook page and noticed that in April and March he sent a high five to an ex and hid it from his time line. She has liked some of his posts on FB recently too,she was only able to see memories of memes he'd shared as his settings are private. They aren't friends on FB. I cant find any messages between them on his messenger. He only had a short fling with her before we got together but I was gutted when he got with her. She lives hundreds of miles away. I'm feeling annoyed and don't know if I'm stupid for feeling like this. He knows I couldn't stand her and hated him for picking her over me ( yes it was 20 odd years ago) . I've stuck with him through hard times over the years and feel he is taking the p*. He is a great dad and husband most of the time. Am I wrong to feel angry? Should I tell him what I saw on his fb? It's bad enough seeing it when not pregnant but I'm feeling crap and hormonal and this has just made me worse

He was probably sneaking a look at her page and did it by accident! I’ve done this and was mortified as it was someone I had gone to school with and hadn’t spoken to for about 10 years, definitely put my off Facebook stalking.

Yeah, but he sent her a high five in March then another one in April and has deliberately hid from his time line I could maybe understand doing it once by mistake but it was twice in the space of four weeks. she's liked two posts he shared in March so she's obviously stalking his page as they aren't friends on Facebook. I'm more worried that he might be chatting to her on messenger and then deleting the messages x

Maybe they are following each other on face ache. That way, they don't have to be friends but public posts will be there for them to see.

I don't understand how he picked her over you...when he had a fling before you got together and he married you.

OP - you feel how you feel. Nothing right/wrong about it.

But - just remember - 20+ years ago he could have stayed with her.
He didn’t.
He fell for you and married you. And has been a good H for many years.

Maybe he say her liking his post. And wanted to see how her life has turned out.
You can, of course, be angry. But is human nature to be curious about people.

Might just like the thrill of it...if you mention it then he might then think oh shit I shouldn't be doing it and then it's all nipped in the bud before it goes any further

Oh my, sorry to be blunt lovely but I think you need to give your head a bit of a wobble.
20 years have passed and you're happily married! Everybody has a quick nosy at their ex on Facebook, often to reaffirm how lucky they are in the choices they made.
He chose you and unless there are bigger worries about his fidelity, you are definitely making a mountain out of a mole hill.
Have some and go give him a cuddle.