Should I tell her (yet more) dirt about soon to be ex-h, or just keep quiet?

[FeelingAwkward]

My very good friend is going through a really rough separation ATM and her soon-to-be ex has been a real rat. I went out the other night with a group of other friends, one of whom has known her ex for many, many years (doesn't know my friend at all) and she told me alsorts of unsavoury things about him and about various goings on over the last few years.

Do I tell my friend this new info or keep schtum? I don't think any of this would be new info as such, just confirming things she suspected or half knew about anyway. Although I would be soooo angry, I personally would want to know, but i know other people may feel differently?

oh, i'm a regular poster BTW, but have name changed in case she is an undercover MN'er too. I possibly could be identified in RL by my other name.

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keep out of it

I'd keep schtum. She already knows he's a git, that's why he's soon to be her ex.

It's hearsay and you should keep well out.

Just keep quiet. It's not going to change the situation but may make her feel worse.

Keep quiet, nothing to be gained be telling her.

gosh that is really difficult, if there is no chance they will get back together then maybe there is no need to say anything unless something comes up in conversation and she asks your opinion maybe.

sometimes ignorance is bliss, i parted with a boyfriend and i had a friend who thought it was for the best that i knew why, he had met someone else. To be honest, we had split up & he had moved away, i had been unhappy with him for a while so didn't want to get back with him but knowing that he had been seeing someone else behind my back just made me lose my self comfidence. But i suppose my friend (at the time)thought this was the right thing to do in case i found out from someone else, i still think she shouldn't of bothered telling me.

Say nothing

Well, I think i will keep quiet ! Thanks for your opinions.

Feeling, I used to think that I would want to know everything but now I've actually been in the situation I really wish I'd never asked those questions As far as I'm concerned what you don't know can't hurt you.

none of yer beeswax. keep your friend and keep yer gob shut

I'd say keep quite unless any of the information is something that not knowing could endanger or inconvenience her ie he's run up debts in her name or is involved in some sort of criminal activity - and even then, you'd need to be pretty sure of your facts.
Probably best to keep out of it if it's all just gossip with no evidence, though.