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[Felicityx01]

Hi all

I know I'm posting on the relationship category but I know I'll get more responses on here! Has anyone been down the legal route regarding co parenting? My ex threatens me with court but it will be mediation first right? If anyone has been through any experiences regarding mediation and how much it costs and how long it takes I'd love to here your stories!

I took my exH to mediation. It appeared to improve things initially but was very short lived

Several years later and a million threats of taking me to court... he hasn't bothered so far

Ironically I'm not stopping him seeing DC (it's just a cover to make himself feel better)

No idea if we will or won't ever go to court, I'm reconsidering meditation but as he was abusive will probably choose shuttle mediation

Tbh I don't think anyone can really make you do anything and it's all a very long process so try not to worry too much

There's programs out there to help with coparenting. I've tried but exH doesn't engage and when he does it's just used to manipulate and abuse me. If your ex is just a dick rather than an abusing dick... something like that may work for you

As for cost I think was a few hundred. I got legal aid at the time.

Thankyou for your reply @grimereaper its so stressful ain't it! We got into a huge argument and he says he's taking me to court and getting in touch with a solicitor and haven't heard from him since been only a few days though, I know court is a last resort and a lot of money but mediation will need to be dine first to try and resolve things I hope I'm entitled to legal aid! I'm guessing if mediation doesn't work then I'm not sure if there are other alternatives besides court, also @grimereaper how long did your mediation take to apply and the first meeting I read online they said average is 110 days

I think it was a matter of weeks tbh, maybe 6 or so? Could have been less.

It's very stressful. Half the time it's just threats though and they don't actually bother.

I can't even count how many times in5 years I was threatened... the only time he's even seen a solicitor was in response to me seeing one and trying to do damage limitation for himself

Try to get on with life as best you can in the meantime, nothing happens overnight x

I think it was a matter of weeks tbh, maybe 6 or so? Could have been less.

It's very stressful. Half the time it's just threats though and they don't actually bother.

I can't even count how many times in5 years I was threatened... the only time he's even seen a solicitor was in response to me seeing one and trying to do damage limitation for himself

Try to get on with life as best you can in the meantime, nothing happens overnight x

I think it was a matter of weeks tbh, maybe 6 or so? Could have been less.

It's very stressful. Half the time it's just threats though and they don't actually bother.

I can't even count how many times in5 years I was threatened... the only time he's even seen a solicitor was in response to me seeing one and trying to do damage limitation for himself

Try to get on with life as best you can in the meantime, nothing happens overnight x

Bloody hell, sorry! Meant to post once!

@grimereaper you mediation happened 7 years ago so today the process might be a lot longer as what I've read up, yeahh it could be just threats he says he's got the money to do it apparently, I won't let it get to me just want to enjoy my life