I've been with my OH about 6 years now, living together for most of it but things aren't the same anymore. He never talks to me about big issues like kids, marriage etc, never helps with h/w unless I nag him 1000 tines, he rationalises it when the cat pees on the bed and then leaves the peed on duvet for days before cleaning it, he talks over my TV shows but complains when I do the same to his, he leaves the cat litters and bowls for days when dirty, leaves dishes in the sink for days, leaves simple chores for days so I have to do them on top of work, is more bothered about buying films than saving money, leaves the rubbish for days, never notices when I blitz the flat, leaves the laundry cause I 'don't trust him to do it', he uses my intimate sponge to clean the peed on duvet and shuts down when I try to talk to him about things and assumes something is wrong when I get annoyed. I need advice on what to do