Getting my ex back

[WhiteGeranium]

Hi, I had been with my ex for 5 years and we broke up a month ago. I love him dearly and feel like I have loved him more and more the longer we were together.
2 years into the relationship I was contacted by an ex who wanted to meet me and stupid as I was I fell for his flattery. We arranged to meet and unbeknownst to me my boyfriend saw the texts on my phone, asked me about if I was planning to meet someone to which I replied no. He told me later that he knew what I was planning and we briefly broke up, but then got back together. I never met the other man.
My now ex boyfriend claims to never have gotten over this and has now finished the relationship which I know was really hard for him.
Does anyone have advice as to whether they think we should try again, whether I should try to get him back? We are both in our 40’s and have never lived together (45miles apart due to work and kids etc). I made a stupid mistake but is there any way I can get him to forgive me and trust me again?

He wants you to beg.

However, why did you fall for the flattery of your ex ? Why did you lie about meeting ? Why was your now ex-DP so suspicious he was looking at your phone ?

Just move on. Arranging to meet someone else isn’t love. A mistake is picking up full
Fat instead of semi skimmed milk. You made a decision, you weren’t forced to do it.

Just move on and leave him be.

Thanks for your message, maybe there was something lacking in our relationship at the time. Im not sure why he was looking at my phone. I guess I’ve I’m brutally honest I lacked respect for him at that time, i don’t know why, but I do know that my live for him grew during the relationship and we were really happy. We had a lot of fun but I guess he had been holding back to some extent because of the trust issue.

It is over and although that sucks your ex has made a decision and you have to respect that.