Advice on when to talk to new partner about sex issues

[Ginandtonic4all]

Hi All.
I am a year out of a 22 year marriage and have started to date - The issue is that I have never been able to orgasm via man alone and need to use a vibrator (apologies if TMI for Relationships).

What I need advice on is how / when to tell a potential new partner this without it becoming a huge deal?

Probably when you start having sex is a good time to tell him although just because you never have had an orgasm from a man doesn't mean it's impossible or you never would do

Um I wouldn’t until you’ve seen what the sex is like for a bit. My ex the sex was meh and I never came without artificial assistance either. New partner totally different and the sex is awesome.

I’d just be more open to playing at first and trying new things rather than presuming you’ll need that vibrator.

I wouldn't either, until you see how it goes. It might be a lot different with a new partner you're in the flush of excitement about.

(I'd also stop calling it an issue: it's common for women not to orgasm from piv alone, there's nothing wrong with you.)

So if I don't bring it up for a while, how do I deal with the 'was it good for you' type questions.

I don't want to lie and fake it but need some sensible but encouraging words to say. I tried to be nonchalant about it with a partner (on third date) and just sounded like a complete basket case (not attractive in the early days of dating).