I've recently cut off contact from my husband's parents, bar sending the odd photo . They have been deeply unpleasant on and off for 20 years, e.g. Telling me my children didn't ask to be born when I had severe depression and verbally abusing my mother. Constant judgement, horrid comments and disapproval. It's been hard as my own family are pretty difficult too.
I never wanted to get into a stand up row everyone would regret with mil but it reached a point last summer , when my husband was ill, that they totally crossed the line. I no longer see them. Kids see them every 3-4 months.
I am however deeply angry with my husband that he did so little to intervene. In 20 years he spoke up twice, on my insistence. He just seemed to have very little reaction. This has caused us to have arguments as I know if my family had been vile I'd not have stood for it.
Have I been expecting too much? Expecting a knight in shining armour? How have other people handled this?