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Trying to help but not helping

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Newbabies15 · 03/06/2018 04:39

I’m upset with my mother in law - ever since my babies were born she seems to want them grown up as fast as possible. My dh is adopted and she couldn’t have children herself. I feel like she’s trying to spoil my experience because she didn’t have it herself.
When I visit she asks when I’m returning to work and that she can’t wait until they’re running about. She suggested that it’s time to wean but they’re only 3.5 months and aren’t showing any of the signs that they’re ready. Also when I visit she’ll suggest that she knows what’s wrong with them - they’re hungry and she’ll play with them - when they desperately want sleep and I’ve said that they usually nap in the afternoon. She’ll also try and get my dh and I to leave them there (so we can have a break), when we’ve already planned a walk as a family.
I know she tries to help but I feel like sometimes she’s trying spoil my experience of parenthood because she didn’t get it herself.

OP posts:
Shadow666 · 03/06/2018 04:43

Boundaries! Be firm but polite with her.

Ok, the babies need a nap now. Say night, night, grandma. Then, pick them up and take them. If she kicks up a fuss, just be firm and insistent.

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