So I've been seeing a guy since before Christmas on and off. He lives an hour and half away so was difficult to see / date.
Over the past couple of months we've got into the habit of speaking via phone upto 3 times a day...first thing in morning, some point mid day and before going to sleep.
He's also making the journey to come and see me once a fortnightish.
After the last time we agreed the distance was too much but still seeing each other, I said No sex until we figure things out. So he's not coming all this way for sex. He does stay in my bed and we cuddle (my children are grown and have their own lives).
I've been leaving the ball in his court, so he's the one who is initiating phone calls and asking to see me.
He's coming over tomorrow and I'm looking forward to seeing him. I tried to speak to him about 'what it is were doing' and he says 'he doesn't know', that he's attached to me, loves me and that's all he knows.
It feels too casual to be serious...as in the distance means seeing each other difficult. But at the same time it feels entangled / serious enough to care about each other. I think I love him too.
I could go and see him so we see each other more and initiate phone calls but it's the thought that I've slipped into a friends with benefits situation...even though there's no sex.
I should say there's lots of affection and kissing