Hi all, I'll try to keep this brief. Together almost 3 years. Found out in January I was pregnant when I was already 16 weeks. Baby due 6th July. Father wasn't happy initially as he never wanted kids, he has since come to accept it, although I'm not sure how much. Don't live together. Had no plans to as relationship has always been on his terms. See each other three times a week at most. I haven't been happy with this set up for the last 2 odd years and have tried to end it on a few occasions but never seemed to follow through.
Lots of arguments since the pregnancy news as I have felt unsupported and alone. We both have own houses and he stated early on that he wasn't going to be giving up his house, but that he would be here at me house more 'initially' when the baby is born. I didn't push the matter, thinking I would give that a try. Since then the whole thing has really be eating at me more and more. I don't deem it normal for a couple who are 'together' to live apart when they have a child. I decided that I don't want this to be the case for the best 10, 15 years. I finally snapped, and ended the relationship because I was just so bloody miserable. This was Tues. Since then we have been discussing it via text. I have told him that I will not tolerate this sort of relationship any longer, I have always felt it was a very casual set up even though he always said it wasn't. I've had enough. He's spent time telling me that one of his mates has a child with his partner but they don't live together bla bla bla. I have told him that I don't care about their lives, if it works for them fine, but it isn't for me. I also worry that it will confuse the child. He has also said that nobody in their right mind would give up their house. It's like he thinks it's ridiculous for a couple to even entertain the idea of living together. I have said he doesn't have to, there were other options such as renting it out etc. It's not even about living with him anymore, I am not sure I want to. But what I can't stand is living as a single mother whilst claiming to be in a relationship. I would rather be single than have this way of life forced on me. I have told him that I'm not going to change my mind on it and I accept how he is. He wants to come to talk about it all properly this afternoon/evening. I don't know what he could possibly have left to say. Am I being unreasonable here? Is it normal to live apart with a new baby?