Afternoon Everyone
First post I could really do with some advice from you the wisest of women on my current predicament. I don't really have family to ask for guidance and my friends aren't always very insightful lol.
My name is Alex I'm 27 (a dude) and after a very bad break up (was gas lighted, emotionally manipulated and left with 0 self confidence) a little while ago I had decided to start dating again.
Well I met a girl and I dont want to do a Tom Cruise and start jumping around all over the place but she's pretty f*ing amazing we have so much in common and shes said it feels like we've known each other for years. She has two kids who are also awesome (I met and hung out with them and her mum on our 3rd date) we've both also said we really like each other and we slept together on our 3rd date too. Our 4th date will be this coming Monday. We've both had really bad previous relationships (she was physically and mentally abused in more than one of them).
The problem is I feel like I'm being too clingy because of my past relationship my ex wanted us to text literally all the time and I feel like its a bit of a habit I've carried over for instance: Ill message her in the morning every morning and say something like "morning hope you slept well and have a nice day " or "looking forward to seeing you again" to which she always replies within a few minutes and we'll have a little conversation before we go about our day or both start work.
Her last day off was Monday just gone(28th) when we had our 3rd date and the following morning when we were in bed she asked me "when can i see you again?" and because I knew she didnt have another day off until this coming sunday and monday I said "well maybe I'll come and pick you up from work (she finishes at 10pm) and see you for a bit and drop you home, which I did both on wednesday and friday (last night) .
Anyway this morning after a bit of messaging out of the blue I said how I was feeling and said "Look I realized that maybe I am being a bit too clingy, I know I message a lot its mainly due to a forced habit from my last relationship which I'm trying to change. I can't force you to be interested in me all I can do is give you some space to see if you still want to date me if thats what you'd want ? " to which she replied " Oh god Alex no I've just had my mind on work this week (she started a new job a couple weeks ago) I don't think you're clingy at all and I like having messages to read on my lunch break if I didn't want to keep dating you I wouldn't of agreed to another one things will be different on Monday" or something along those lines.
I said " Oh please dont think I'm demanding your attention or anything like that I just had this realization and thought I should explain I know you're busy and so am i I just didnt want you to be thinking im too clingy lol"
Anyway then it kind of died down and I said i was looking forward to monday and she replied saying similar and she sent me a cute snapchat of herself before work and now I'm sitting here talking to you all wondering if I've just screwed myself lol so any help input would be greatly appreciated thanks :)
Alex.