Do I trust my intuition or am I reading into things?

[Saltfish]

So there’s this woman I fancy at the local shop(I’m female) that I regularly go into. I mainly go in and buy my stuff and don’t really say anything until I thought I’d just try my chances and start making extended eye contact with her. Seemed to work...
The other day she was with a coworker and she looked right at me and cheekily says, “I’m totally crazy and unhinged..”
Anyway, my friend came into the shop with me...and her and I were talking and this woman goes to us, “I’m just going home tonight I’m sick of living inside my head, I’m just trying to stay busy as I’m having some family problems...” the way she said it was very awkward, like she was chewing over her words or nervous.I was completely taken aback by this. What a complete lack of boundaries...I suspected she was maybe wanting some sympathy? I can’t imagine saying that to a customer especially since it’s so personal. That’s what my intuition was telling me anyway.
So today I go in and she was just chit chatting with me, and I asked her how her night was and she goes,”errrrr ummm we..we’re fine, my ummm my uhhh...my(your what? Boyfriend?? Son??)....he is ok, he has fluid on the brain cuz he had an MRA...(think she meant MRI) I looked at her finger no ring. I just felt like she was being a bit shady and evasive. She made absolutely no eye contact and avoided looking at me entirely. The whole thing felt weird...
I was going to give her my number to say she should come out with me and the girls from work(we like to go bowling) but now I don’t know..I get the impression she likes me but there’s something about her life she’s not admitting to..does any of this make sense?

I guess some background info, I have just left a relationship with an alcoholic woman with mental health issues and prior to that dated someone with bpd..I feel like I am a magnet for the wounded, or am subconsciously attracted to wounded birds. It’s frustrating. But maybe I have the way she’s being around me all wrong? I just don’t know whether to trust my judgment anymore...or worry I am reading waaaay too far into things.

I’m sorry this is so confusing and long, any advice would be appreciated though.

i think she maybe just needs a friend and sometimes a regular friendly face is welcoming. Dont mistake it for a romance.

And work out why you are a magnet for the needy and unhinged.

You're on half term, aren't you?

She sounds a bit like one of my close friends who has mh issues and regularly really overshares with strangers/people she barely knows, particularly women (she's gay). She's wonderful but exhausting. Those things the shop woman were saying aren't particularly normal, I think you know that. I'd say trust your intuition!

Why because I’m a lesbian? Grow up. If my post really bothers you go check my post history...though I suspect your life is far too busy for that sort of thing...

My best friend is that way...she latched onto me right away, I love her dearly though but everything is a drama in her life. I’m not without my own mental health issues I guess. I’ve had counseling my whole life, it’s not solved a damn thing. I feel like I belong to a very tiny percentage of people(1% are lesbian) and the community is rife with mental illness.

I think it’s best I stay away. Beginning to feel like a failure at relationships.

So a woman you fancy but have spoken to twice. You think she has boundary issues, shady and evasive. She's obviously having a hard time with son/bf. You get an 'impression' she likes you, which seems to be wishful thinking as there is no indication in the op.

You've a history of collecting wounded birds including best friend. Do not add this woman to your collection.trying to fix other people is a great distraction from fixing yourself.

If your present counselling is not working and it's been long term, then you need to try something different..

I would have said the straight community was rife with mh issues as I was constantly surrounded by people having mh dramas until I realised I was drawn to/chosing those types of people as friends/partners. I stepped away, worked on myself, avoided relationships for a long time, cut contact with a bf of many many years so had so many issues I could hardly get through a week without a crisis.

And magically my own my has massively improved. The people I am drawn to are stable and dramaless on the whe.

I'd agree with ThingsgogetBetter

I used to feel like I was a magnet for wounded people. But my boundaries were shot to pieces. I let them in, let them 'latch onto' me. Very easily. Far more easily than I cared to admit.

I still have people who come into my orbit these days and immediately overshare and it has made me realise just how much I also used to do that and how open I really was to drama. Because they were 'worse' in terms of poor boundaries and immediate issues it gave me a good excuse to believe it was them, not me, and I just attracted the unstable types.

To me, the fact that this is playing on your mind enough to concern you might be best looked at in regards to your own boundary and drama issues, not pondering on someone else and whatever they may or may not be facing.

My suggestion is that if you'd dealt with your boundaries and wanted to avoid, you'd not still be trying to figure this near-stranger out and feeling unsettled about her potential issues. You'd notice it and possibly offer her some polite compassion if she tried to overshare again, but would not engage either in a conversation or mentally as you are now.

So somebody close to her, a partner or child, is ill or injured enough to have fluid on the brain and need an MRI?

I would say she's got something huge on her mind that is preoccupying her every waking moment, and even at work it is at the forefront of her thoughts.

As a friendly face, she overshared yes. I see no evidence of her being attracted to you. Shop elsewhere for a bit and leave her be.