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What should i do about my ex

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user1490134173 · 01/06/2018 20:41

Hi everyone just looking for some opinions
So here we go i broke up with my ex quite some years ago but messages him last year and we have been talking on and off , he has gone backpacking and has been gone for nearly a year , the past few weeks we have been video calling everyday , i think im in love and confused of what to do
I have been single since we broke up and also a single parent , thanks for any help

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waxy1 · 01/06/2018 20:43

Arrange to meet and then kick him in the cobblers, good and hard.

Doyoumind · 01/06/2018 20:44

You are probably in love with the idea of rekindling this romance.

You don't know who he is now. That doesn't mean you can't get to know him and fall in love again. Just be careful not to invest too much or get your hopes up.

Why did you split up in the first place?

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user1490134173 · 01/06/2018 20:47

Hi and thanks for replying , we where both young and just had a few to many diffrences but since he has gone travling i can see how he has changed and become the person i hoped he would , i just dont know if i should ask him to come home or not ?

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RabbitsAreTasty · 01/06/2018 20:50

he has changed and become the person i hoped he would

No, no, no, no, no.

Video chat has allowed you to create a fantasy that he has had a personality transplant into being the man you wish he was. That doesn't happen. It just doesn't. He may well be feeling the same about you too, thinking that maybe you've changed to have the personality he wishes you had.

Doyoumind · 01/06/2018 20:51

Ask him to come home? Confused

Definitely not. If he wants you he'll come to you eventually, but don't expect a grand romantic gesture.

What's the hurry?

RabbitsAreTasty · 01/06/2018 20:52

What was wrong with him previously that now seems to be "fixed"?

NK1cf53daaX127805d4fd5 · 01/06/2018 20:54

Definitely don't ask him to come home. That's madness and unfair. Why not continue enjoying chatting to him and meet up when he gets home

Iflyaway · 01/06/2018 20:59

You don't mention your ages.

Single parents rock. However hard it is. (I am one, mine's now an adult).

Nice to chat but don't go into a fantasy about him. He's been travelling and will come home with a completely different set of values. which probably do not include a single mum and kid

Sorry if that hurts.

If he your DC's dad?

Concentrate on making the best life for you and DC. What more can you do?

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user1490134173 · 01/06/2018 21:44

Im 25 and hes 27 he has said he would come home if i asked , thats why i was thinking for asking
We meet when i was 18 and lived together with my child for a few years , my sons dad is not around and never has been

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