Should I email this bookshop guy?

[TheFoodtheFadandtheFugly]

Yesterday, I popped into a bookshop in my nearby city that I had never been to before. I got chatting to the man who owns and runs it.

We got talking about the books when I asked him a question, and then again when I went to pay. We seemed to have some good interests in common and it was interesting talking to him. Then the phone for his shop rang, and I had to leave as I was en route to a meeting.

I have been wondering since if I should email the shop saying it was good meeting him, and if he would like to meet up? I am not usually a person who looks for this sort of thing in every casual encounter with someone nice! I came out of a relationship about eight months ago that petered out, so I haven't even been looking for anything consciously.

Would you message him? And what do I say - or is it too weird and stalkery?

I'd email! A short and sweet honest email - as a PP said - you don't have to go in there again and life is too bloody short!!!

Does his shop have a facebook page? Write a lovely 5 star review... Then he can reply if he wants

Don’t just wait till you’re next there
Make an effort! It’s not going to kill you

So the only reason you think he's not in a relationship is that he wasn't wearing a wedding ring?

Lots of men don't. Or he might be living with someone. I'd go back, chat again in person and try to find out a bit more about him. If you get on well, run out and bring him a takeaway coffee or a bit of cake or something, then he'll remember you and it gives you something else, other than books, to email him about (he'll remember the woman who bought him a coffee!)..

Chatting to customers is kind of what you do when you work in a shop though. Lots of my customers think I'm besotted with them, when all I'm doing is giving them thirty seconds of my undivided attention because they are buying my things. So prepare yourself for the fact that he might be married or co habiting (or gay).

Sorry but I think emailing is really desperate! It's along the same lines of a takeaway d delivery driver texting a customer after delivering a pizza or something which seems t o have happened to a few women and everyone says how creepy men are who d o this! why's it different because it's a woman? Being friendly doesn't equal flirting.

I would emailing a bit stalkerish in his shoes, but if you pop in again within the next couple of weeks you can see if he remembers you.

I own a shop and for some reason would find it creepy if someone contacted me on my work email to ask me out (ignoring the fact I'm not single!). I think popping back in would be the right thing to do. Good luck!

I'd go back in, that's the best way to develop a friendship/more conversation.