I never feel sexually attracted, what's going on?

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Obvious name change!

I've never felt like sex with anyone, ever. I've had plenty of it and some has been okay but it doesn't interest me, really.

I often masturbate, and I really enjoy that... But it's always to a picture or thought of an image of myself in my head. Never of anyone else.

I don't know what it is. I wouldn't want a 'relationship' with myself, as such. Nor would I want one with another woman.

I'm happily married, very lovely DH etc.

It's just something I've never said out loud and wondered if I have a dislike to sexual activity with other people/can't find other people attractive?

Strange. Apologies if it sounds ridiculously made up but it's true.

You're probably somewhere on the asexual spectrum 😊

polka I did think that.

Ahh well, fresh peonies being more exciting than a willy probably says a lot about me

I think this is more normal that you’d think but people don’t talk about it.

Hang on, you only get yourself off when you think of yourself? As in you like yourself physically, or are you imaging the good feeling that you can give yourself?

Makes me wonder if there is a narcissistic tendency, or just that you don't like other people.

I wonder if you are addicted to masturbation - there is a term for the male version where they can only come when masturbating, not during sex.

So do you not feel anything when(if) you have sex with your DH?

Willies aren't very exciting. Once you've seen a few, you've seen them all.

I'm with you too OP. I LOVE having sex and I love masturbating, but I don't lust after people. I love my DH and I want to be close to him, I want him to pleasure me and I want to pleasure him. But I don't look at him - or anybody- and think phwoar, I want to get on that.

I lust after the act and the orgasm, plus the satisfaction of making DH have an orgasm. But not people themselves. Not even hot famous people.

I'm the same - I'm with a great man, he's lovely (most of the time) and I feel so guilty but I just don't feel a spark. I'm not too arsed about anything really!

In tantra, masturbation is making love to yourself.

Do you mean you look at pictures of yourself when masturbating?