Husband has left....I'm lost

[Cdavies15]

So three weeks ago my husband dropped the bomb shell that he is no longer in love with me. We have been together for 12 yeast (since we were 16) and married for 4. We have a twenty month old son together. As far as I was aware our relationship was good. There have been the strains of not having much time together since our son was born but I just saw this as pretty normal.

He said he needed space to think so left our house we went to a councelling session yesterday were he said he could see no way forward and that the marriage was over.

I am heartbroken, confused and don't know how to even begin rebuilding my life. I haven't eaten or slept in three weeks and I am truly at breaking point. Sorry for the rambling post but I could do with some practical advice of what to do next.

Other woman?

Sorry you're going through this. Just take it moment to moment and look after yourself. You need to eat. Have you any friends or family nearby that can support you?

He says there is no one else I have had no previous suspicion or reason to believe there is but obviously this thought has crossed my mind.

I am surrounded by family and friends but as annoyed at myself for saying this as I am I just want my husband.

Didn't want to read and run, sorry to hear this op. There's no point in speculating why/ If there's another woman or not as it will wear you down. Just concentrate on looking after yourself

Be kind to yourself. You will never make sense of this as to you it doesn't. He checked out long ago. There may or may not be someone else. Although it hurts. It isn't relevant. He has left.

Time to get tough. Keep contact to a minimum arrange contact for your dc. Tell him to get his belongings together.

It is good you have people around you let them help you. Look after yourself.

There will be someone else but don't worry about that.
Worry about you and your DC for now.
Get as much support around you as you can.
Family and friends and try to keep busy.
Visit people, get out and about.

This is a shit time but you are still very young and can start again when you feel ready.
That won't be for a long while yet.
Look after yourself.
Keep hydrated and your sugar levels up!

He's a lying dick and he will start to re-write history so don't listen to his bullshit!

What helps / has helped me in those moments of terrifying : heartbreaking life change is to see it as a plot twist (my best friend and I frequently shout PLOT TWIST at each other in our moments of anguish). It somehow helps me to detach and view it as an event that WILL be got through. Another vote for other woman in the wings, but that doesn’t matter. Take care of YOU, and call on all possible help and support. I’m sorry this has happened. Get his stuff packed and OUT, and get practical. Gather everything you need paperwork wise, and seek some legal advice. Make sure you eat, sleep as best as you can (take calms night time or a sleep supplement if it helps) and break down our days into 15 minute chunks of you feel overwhelmed. What a shit of a man! I hope his willy rots away.