My partner of eleven years left me and our two children at the start of September last year. I was completely and utterly blindsided, I had absolutely no idea it was coming :(
In the two years leading up to him leaving we had a pretty rough run as a family, his dad had cancer (he survived but it has left him fairly poorly), I lost three grandparents, I had a miscarriage, he had a slipped disc in his back, we all had whooping cough, then I had a week in hospital for a kidney operation. Two days after he left me we had to have our beloved 9 year old dog put to sleep. So things weren't great but I had thought that we were getting through it all together.
It was a classic script case - he didn't love me anymore and needed to go and be single to see if there was a happier life out there for him!! Within a few weeks I found out about the ow, but obviously he didn't leave me for her, she just magically appeared within a couple of days of leaving! She is 11 years older than him and could easily pass for his mother.
Financially he is paying me what he needs to. Contactwise with the children he is having them overnight every other Saturday (at his parents house although he doesn't actually spend the night there with them, once he has put them to bed he goes back to ow) and one evening per week for dinner (again at his parents). That's it, no other contact or phone calls. He doesn't speak to me at all if he can help it, we literally haven't had one full conversation since he left.
He seems relatively happy with his new life, ow works in a pub so he spends all of his spare time there when he isn't at work. No signs whatsoever of any remorse or regret for destroying mine and the children's lives :(
I'm seeing a counsellor weekly, socialising with friends as much as I can, have started running regularly, doing everything I can to make the children's lives as ok and normal as I can. But I just feel so bloody miserable all the time, it just isn't getting better. I just can't seem to move past the betrayal from the one person that I loved and trusted more than anyone else in the world. I don't want to be the bitter ex but even nearly 9 months later I can rarely move my thoughts away from the situation, it literally plays over and over in my mind all the time :(