Hello,
I am currently going through a break up after 4 years together, we live in the same house which is hard after only a month or two. We have or more like, I can only deal with this via email and text no direct talking or the likes as we end up arguing, getting emotional (one of us) and then rowing again, this no contact but only indirect works so he cant see me and visa versa as we are both still raw.
We fought too much in the end and he said to me last year if we fight again like this i.e. verbally thats it, we are over, so you can imagine I was thinking ok you know we will argue again and next time if not dealt with correctly we are over, this time we are, I said enough after he called me names i.e. you need help when I lost it with him during the time of the month which is my worst but he does make me feel low and I just go moody and then it spirals and he says something and thats it....I am upset and crying and he is shouting and before you know it we are not talking but now this time after saying enough as I felt he was the worst ever with me..... he says I agree lets break.
He thinks this time around its the same as our last arguments but I mentioned no this time its over (what planet is he on, before I always use to come back, this time I havent which is a first for me) so not sure why he mentioned that. He was also coming down the same time as me in the mornings at weekends and told him to stop. I am not sure if he wanted complete control and now he hasnt got it or he was just an a*se!
Since, he has asked for more of the house money he put in, the greedy s*d and well from that its made me hate him even more so thats a blessing. lol.....
I have since sorted that with solicitors before he thought he could have it his way money wise only because I have more and he thought he could take advantage of that part, little did he know we will both be equal and he wont have what he thinks he can get.
So living in this house is hard....anyone had this or know any good ways to get over someone...The gym helps, walking the dogs do too and also seeing friends and family, but I am finding if I don't have this routine, I start to think again, which isn't the thoughts I want....
My friends caught him on a dating site 2 weeks ago, I told him about this and he said he hasnt signed up yet as he is still damaged from us and not ready and makes him feel depressed but hey he is a man what can I say and we are both wanting to move on.....whenever the time comes. I am actively just wanting to date but more like find new friends and get out there more with dates, have some me time again....
Thank you...
xx