I have been friends with a man since we were at uni together 15 years ago. Back then we were very close and it was a really special and important friendship for both of us but its always been totally platonic.
We are now both married (his wife and I are also friendly) and he a young son while I don't have any kids and no plans to have them. In the past few years the friendship seems to have waned a bit. I am a bit of a loner by nature and fine with only meeting up once every month or so and since he's become a father I've went out of my way to make our arrangements easy for him and to accomodate his son who I adore.
I guess I just feel like he isn't that interested in meeting up. I did contact him recently to meet up and gave him various options of times and places which he wasn't able to do and I then replied saying when I was free and told him to get back to me when he had a free afternoon or evening. He never has. When we do meet up its nice and he always says we should do it more often but then its always a long time before we do manage to meet again.
its lovely to see him but as I said I am a loner by nature and happy to do things alone or with my husband. I hate the idea that if I contact him again to meet up I might be intruding or harranging him but I sort of feel like if I don't contact him the friendship will fizzle out.
Do I just step back and let him contact me?
Note: I am well aware that as a father he does have a lot on his plate at the moment and I have no ill will towards him and would still be happy to pick up our friendship in a few years if he got back in touch in future.