I left my ex at the beginning of the year due to emotional, financial and borderline physical abuse amongst other things. I've never been able to talk about all the things he did to me and I kinda want to just get it off my chest so here goes
- he gambled away all of my money and spent it on drugs, if I didn't give it to him he would steal my card
- when I had no money left to take, he started stealing my things and pawning then including very sentimental items
- i lost over a stone in a month because I couldn't afford to eat
- I'm now £1000s in debt in my name because I had to take out loans to pay the bills and his credit score was too poor
- I had to pay all of the bills our whole relationship, he would start and drop jobs regularly
- I wasn't allowed to be friends with his friends because apparently I had a thing with all of them
- If I wanted to see my friends or family he'd have a tantrum just when I was due to leave
- he would punch himself in the face and smash his head into the wall if he didn't get what he wanted
- it was my fault that he hit himself, but it wasn't his fault when I ended up doing the same (the pro abuser, didn't even have to hit me himself)
- he once held a knife to his neck and threatened to kill himself in front of me
- he stomped on my hand when I tried to get the knife from him and later said he wanted to stomp on my hand
- he threatened to kill himself many times
- he threatened to kill me if I ever cheated
- he now tells everyone that I did cheat with 2 or 3 guys that he knows of (I didn't)
- I once asked if he had cheated and he said 'now you've said that, I should cheat on you' (he probably cheated)
- he once screamed at me until I had a panic attack because I refused to buy him a £1 SIM card he didn't need, our neighbours called the police and they did nothing
- he regularly screamed at me until I cried and blamed me for his anger
- he would grab and push me if I didn't get out of the way
- I once pushed him out of the door to get him out of my face and he never let me forget it
- he would disappear for hours and blame me for being paranoid when I called to see where he was
- he blamed me for the stillbirth of our son
- he called our son 'that child'
- he would smoke cigarettes and weed around me during the pregnancy and wouldn't stop when I asked
- if I ever walked away from him he would chase me screaming, even in the city centre
- when I got the money from him to get my stuff that he pawned, he tried to shout at me in the shop we were in and blamed me that he had to pawn some of his things to keep mine in the shop
- he screamed at me in the high street once for replying to texts in front of him, it was my fault he was angry
- he would regularly break things of mine through anger or utter carelessness
- when I left there were 3 holes in the flat walls from his fists and his head, another two from slamming doors
- the one occasion he was allowed back into the flat he hid his passport there after I gave him it so he could say I stole it and wouldn't give him it and threatened to call the police on me
- during the space of 1/2 months I had the police out 4 or 5 times, they still did nothing
I'm free now and I'm starting over and life is going good now, but I've never been able to tell anyone the extent of what happened to thank you if anyone has read all of this 