Married with crush on married man

[Cantstopthinking]

I’m married, happily, but have developed a crush on a married man who I see fairly regularly and can’t really avoid.
There was a time when we got were messaging each other but it stopped abruptly from his side. My feelings started to settle and I thought about him less.
However we have bumped into each other a lot lately and the feelings have intensified, I’m thinking about him all the time and it’s driving me nuts.
I don’t want to over step the line, I wouldn’t have an affair, but I just can’t shake him out of my head.
Any words of wisdom from anyone who has been in this position?

Is there really no way of avoiding him? That's not a snotty question btw, I'm genuinely wondering if something can be done.

Not really. I can try to limit it.
I do think his wife saw the messages hence big drop in contact, crush settled. Has recently been around a lot more and so it’s resurfaced. I’m annoyed with myself. But i do think it’s all biology and inevitable sparks fly sometimes. Just wish I could cut all contact but I can’t.

You already over stepped the mark with your adolescent style texting of each other; you fuelled it, both of you and you love your DH, what a joke that is eh.

Well done for already fucking up his wife's head, only advice is, grow up, act your age, behave like a married woman, behave in work and stop mooning over a married man, that's it basically, you have full control of yourself.

All biology, nope, it's your head, try changing your mind set, or here's a thing, think about your husband and his wife every time you get a fanny beat.

Actually I think this is a bit unfair, OP had hormones, realised it, and it'll fizzle out in due course. She's not the wicked witch of the west!

Saying it's all biology it just trying to say you can't help it and rid yourself of blame.
You can help it
You are to blame for your actions
I'm sure your husband would be thrilled if your crush's wife got in touch and told him what's been happening.
Grow up.

People can be very harsh when posters ask what to do about a crush. You have been slightly roasted for this OP, but you were brave to admit to having feelings for a married man. He initiated the contact, so I don't really get the judginess. I have been there a few times. I think people who have strong imaginations and perhaps something lacking from childhood have tendancies to crush on unavailable types. You say this is your first time feeling like this? Take it from me...it's extremely painful when you are in full limerant crush, but it will eventually pass

Ana she didn't act on it though. It was a few daft texts.

OP, try not to be too bothered by the "evil woman" and "grow up" brigades.
IMHO the most childish thing displayed on this thread is to see the world in this oversimplified black/white form. People are complex, long relationships are hard, you're self aware enough to recognise you don't want these feelings. Hang on in there.