Struggling to get over controlling ex

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Hi new here I broke up with my ex last week because he was being controlling about who I saw and wouldnt let me spend any time away from him. no kids or anything thankfully however I am struggling to cope without him and even though everyone goes on about how bad he is I still miss him and want to go back to him. I have a police case open against him for harrasing me and my friend which makes me feel shit for going to the police I also have bpd and it's making my mental health worse I don't know what to do sorry if it makes no sense

I'm sorry that you are going through this OP

I recently went through a similar thing. It can be so difficult to move on, but you need to take things a day at a time and remind yourself why you left.

For me, it really helped to set a reminder on my phone listing the reasons I broke up with my ex. From the really big things (massive jealousy issues and angry outbursts) to annoying and petty things he did. The reminder flashed up every single morning and was there when I felt I was wavering.

Also, listen to other people who are telling you he is not good for you.

Do not ever return to being controlled by this man. You have already made the correct decision in parting, so hold in there. It is tough facing life on one's own after being controlled by someone - I know this from bitter experience. It took me 15 years before I could escape and the certain knowledge that things would only ever get worse was the reason I stayed away from my toxic partner.