They've been together about 2 years and my ex (have 2 dcs with him) told me the other day that they had split up in a message.
I'm genuinely sad about it! She was lovely and great for my dcs. Granted she hadn't been in their life long but I had a good feeling about her and never once felt that 'threatening feeling' that I know does exist when a new partner comes into dcs lives.
I didn't ask why they split, not my place and no reason too. Just replied back with 'sorry to hear that'
Anyway my dcs are with their dad for half term. I say with their dad, more like their grandad (ex's dad) as ex never takes time off work to have them.
Dcs grandad is always putting videos and pictures of the dcs on fb which I don't mind as I'm friends with him and it's nice to see what they are up too. I always 'like' them or 'love' them so to speak.
He's put a few pics and videos on over the last few days and I've noticed that dcs dad's ex (if that makes sense!) has also 'loved' them all and commented some lovely things on the post. Which again just makes me sad as it's clear to see she did think a lot of my dcs. They thought a lot of her and her ds also. They have a holiday booked for August which my dcs are excited for though no idea if they will still go now - but obvs that's not my place to get involved either.
Anyway I've been abit nosey and had a look at her profile and she's shared a couple of things that make me think that my absolute twat of an ex has gone and cheated on her just the same way as he did me. We've been separated 5 years, he's mid thirties now, still lives at home with his mum and dad. I really thought she might of changed him and surely he would of learnt by now. But clearly not. She has her own place, good job, nice car, well grounded, lovely little boy. Was always nice and polite to me when I saw her and also always buying my dcs little treats (only packs of sweets, comics etc) but she really made the effort with them. My eldest dc is autistic and she wasn't phased by that and even asked me about what she could do for my ds in a drop off one time. That ment the world to me seen as his own dad (twat of an ex) never even bothers to ask how his son is doing!
I just feel so angry at him for treating her (though I really don't have any proof but judging by the things she's shared and what her friends have said, he has) like he did me. He used to physically cheat and also register himself on sex websites and talk to women online. He's done the same to her.
I just feel so bad for her as she is very nice from what I know of her and she's clearly heart broken. I'm not going to message her or anything. I'm not going to say anything to twat of an ex either as it will only make me look like a weird stalker but I had to let it all out somewhere. And Mumsnet is the place for it lol.
Next relationship he gets in, I really want to say I don't want this person around my dcs as it more than likely will not last. But I know I can't as I don't have any right too. I hate cheaters like my ex!
There are actually no questions to my post, I don't need any advice...except for maybe asking am I mad that this has made me angry?
I am now happily married and expecting dc3 by the way. Absolutely no feelings for twat of an ex whatsoever.