Confusion re new man

[wiserthanme]

Hi all. I'm 55 and divorced. I met a man (widower)7 months ago and we have had a fantastic relationship. I'm in love with him and he says he feels the same. However, I have yet to meet his 2 grown up children even though he has met mine. My 3 grown up sons like him very much and he spends a lot of time with us. I can only stay at his house if his son is away on holiday or a business trip. He says his kids are not ready for him to move on but last night he also said that he has a couple of things to sort out before he can introduce me. I am starting to wonder. Any thoughts please?

Hi OP. How long has he been widowed and do you know the circumstances? Was he suddenly widowed or was it expected? And was their marriage a happy one?

There are all sorts of reasons why his children might resist him moving on. It may be a misguided attempt to protect them from things that happened in the past. Or it could be that he is wanting to take things extremely slowly with you.

If you’ve been together for 7 months though, hopefully you’ll be able to have an open and honest conversation with him about his reasons. Good luck!

I think when a parent does it might be harder for kids to see their surviving parent with new partner

Dies*

I think he’s protecting you & his children. There’ll never be a right time under such dreadful circumstances however, it feels like he’s biding his time for the right moment

I;m not sure its anything to worry about. It depends how long he's been a widower for but, I can understand why his kids will find it harder seeing their Dad moving on after losing their Mum. Its totally different to separation.

I understand too. I suppose I'm just being paranoid. Thank you