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Another bank holiday spent alone

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northernlights0710 · 28/05/2018 11:58

And at work. If only I’d married that bloke who was really into me in my 20s (who I don’t fancy). Him and his wife retired early and are floating around the Caribbean in a yacht now. Sigh...

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SoapOnARoap · 28/05/2018 12:36

It wasn’t meant to be for a reason. You wouldn’t have made it to that stage as you’d have resented him.

Sending you a

Livedandlearned · 28/05/2018 12:58

I've been in an unhappy marriage and I'd rather be alone and free than stuck with someone I couldn't stand. Caribbean or not.

I can understand you being bored and lonely though but that happens to some married people, people surrounded by others and people alone. It's a state of mind ( I think )

UnapologeticallyUnhinged · 28/05/2018 13:05

If it’s any consolation, I am also at work and perpetually single. Last night I saw my ex (I was with from 19-22) on tv as he is now a famous musician. It made me feel a bit sad thinking if I’d stayed with him I’d have a completely different life now. But then I remembered that when we together he was just bumming around and I had to pay all the bills. Also he was boring. Shoulda woulda coulda. I’ve been single for years and it’s actually great. Working today is pants (I’ve had two people come in already saying ‘why are you in work?!’) but you know what? We have jobs in a shit economy. We’re not relying on s man to pay our way, and as my mum says ‘EX FOR A Also you don’t have to pick up their skiddy pants. Enjoy sleeping diagonally tonight, kid.

UnapologeticallyUnhinged · 28/05/2018 13:06

*REASON doh

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northernlights0710 · 28/05/2018 13:17

Thanks for the support, folks. And yes, I'm better off having a job in a dodgy economy.

The bloke who is now floating around the Caribbean on a yacht was not someone I was ever involved with - we were just friends but he was crazy about me.

It's more a reflection generally on the decent blokes in the past that I rejected. And how I picked the losers.

Another ex - not a "good guy" but since seems to have transformed dramatically into one, is getting married later this year to someone who seems really nice and normal. They are very happy.

But when he was with me he wouldn't sleep with me, was constantly coming on to my friends (and denying it when confronted) and told me at the end that he'd been smoking crack cocaine with prostitutes.

But to look at him with this very nice looking blonde woman on FB (I'm brunette and he always wanted a blonde), it's all hearts and flowers.

I guess it's just me who's rubbish.

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redastherose · 28/05/2018 13:25

It's not you it's all fake on FB is all! If he was a twat then he'll be a twat with her too, she's just faking it 😄

Definitely better to be alone and working than married to a twat!

Squeegle · 28/05/2018 13:32

I know what you mean. I’ve rejected a lot of good guys in my time, and do feel a bit lonely😕. But definitely glad not to be with some of the difficult exes!

UnapologeticallyUnhinged · 28/05/2018 13:34

No way it is you op. I am in the exact same situation. An ex told me during our whole 4+ year relationship he wasn’t the marrying type. 4 months after we split (due to his cheating) he was engaged to the ow (young enough to be his daughter FYI). I was absolutely heartbroken for two years after that. I’ve pretty much been single since then (7 almost 8 years) I have dated since but always seem to end up with chumps so last year retired myself from dating until this year. In the last 6 weeks I have been on 3 first dates all of whom have ghosted me. Think the universe is telling me to stick to my cats (yes I’m a cliché but who cares?!) it’s honestly better than being stuck in an unhappy relationship. Some of the horror stories I read on here make me want to cry. Lonliness can happen in relationships too. At least this way you have all your options open. You never know, one bank holiday your dream man might walk through the door!

UnapologeticallyUnhinged · 28/05/2018 13:39

I’m a brunette too. As is Angelina Jolie. Famous blondes include Jimmy Saville, Myra Hindley and Donald Trump. Sod them on their boat.

MrsST · 28/05/2018 13:40

I've spent my bank Holiday picking up everyone else's shite after working all weekend, to tidy up a house with a 3 and 4 year old because 'D' H didn't do the two jobs I asked him to do yesterday and he's at work.
I'd love a bank holiday to myself!
Have you any friends you can go and sit in a pub garden with? If so please go so I can live vicariously through you!

SillyMoomin · 28/05/2018 13:44

I’ve taken myself off for a long walk op as I am desperately lonely at the moment, despite being married.

DH has only just noticed I’m not in the house despite having left at 8am because he just texted me asking where the kitchen roll was.

I get it. Holidays and “enforced jollity times” can be the hardest

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