What should I do?

[Puffin29]

Yesterday my husband made a comment about packing a lot of stuff for a trip, he then used this as an example of him not criticizing me as I have accused him

Hey?

Of criticizing me. I said you can just say you did well. He then said I was stifling him and controlling him. I then said I know what you're up to as I suspect im being emotionally abused. He then sped at 40 mph angrily with kids in the car and drove home and stormed back into house saying he wasnt coming on the trip. I went to door to try and get him to come and he kicked the door in anger. Refused to come then forced me to apologise. In the car he told kids I was sorry and called me a bully and manipulator. Then acted like nothing had happened but I was upset whole trip. Worried he's starting to brain wash me. He says im too sensitive to criticism or comments not directed at me. I tried for weeks to ignore him but was walking on egg shells. I called him on his behaviour and now he's saying he cannot expresd him and he is walking on eggshells. Also says swearing at me when angry is just part of his vocabulary but does accept he has anger issues but of course I am to blame. He says its cause kids are young and not enough time as a couple but I dont want to wait and regret it. He often nags, complains and criticizes but says I sh

Should accept criticism. He gets angry if I call him a bully or challenge him by throwing things, he has pinched me once but that was a year ago. He has a habit of biting his lip so not sure he has extreme stress after birth of third baby, post natal depression possible? Fine sort of for 7 years prior.

you need to get out of this vile controlling abusive relationship lady

I just clinging to hope it's stress related? People keep saying you need more time together and you have a lot of stressful things going on. He is hands on at times, a good provider and good with children. Maybe he just doesn't love me but can't express it. It seems to be if I tell him to leave or call him a bully he throws stuff.

do your children witness this behaviour.. ?

He doesn't really hide it. Ive asked him to leave and he said he's not going. He says he will get help from a counsellor. Says he doesn't want to leave kids without a dad. He thinks he's not criticizing just point

Pointing out things and that im too sensitive