What would your advice be?

[cantthinkofanewname]

If someone said to you

They have 2 children
Had 1 mc in 2006 and wants a third child.

Their DH has said no (last July) and has promised to think about it. It is now May and still no reply from DH. She is 40.

What would you advise?

I'd say it was none of my business, it's between them.

I'd say it's odd that give they are married they has not 'replied' - surely it would be an ongoing conversation. They should bring up the subject again!

What you mean is that he hasn't said yes yet?

If she is seriouss she needs to raise it again with him, sooner rather than later . He may have perfectly valid concerns arising from circumstances of m/c and perhasp their age. Agree it is their decision not yours to influence.

Assuming your friend/relative has asked what you would do, this would be my reply. Rather ambiguous admittedly:- Well hun, I cannot tell you what to do. You have to decide if you want your marraige & two children or try for another even if it means your marraige might break up. You need to talk with him.

Gets you off the hook without you really giving an opinion.

i'd perhaps say well ask dh again what he thinks & tell him what you'd like.

My advice would be to tell her to talk to her DH! If you suggest anything and it all goes horribly wrong, it'll be your fault. Don't get involved is my advice to you.

I think that this woman needs to speak to her husband about it again - if she considers that this would be difficult / a problem, I would reckon that that alone should tell her something about whether a 3rd child in this relationship would be a good idea.