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Never felt like this...!

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JennieBean · 27/05/2018 07:15

Hi all,

So as the title suggests I'm experiencing new feelings and I just need a bit of perspective from you wise ladies (and gents!)

Me and ex split up last year, the marriage had died 2 years previous to that but I think we we're trying to stay together for the kids, but it was better in the end for us to end things and the kids are both happy and have a good relationship with us both. The divorce is nearly finalised and we have agreed on a settlement it's just a case of everything being finalised.

I've moved into my own place with my kids, Work is really good and we are all settled. I've had time to be single and process things, and I've managed to figure out what I really want from a partner and rediscover myself.

So I've been on a just a few dates recently to get myself back out there, I didn't feel any connection but it was nice to know that I was still a desirable woman! So the latest man I've been on a few dates with, I'd say about 5/6 and it's going really well.

I'm starting to get these feelings about him, as in I can't eat, sleep or concentrate because he's just on my mind all the time! Even thinking about him makes me smile so much! I'm in no rush for anything but is it strange that I'm scared about these feelings? I don't feel like things are going to go wrong, I think it's more that I wasn't sure if I was ever able to have a connection again with another person, this connection I feel with this man is nothing like I've ever felt before and it's exciting, but I don't want to get ahead of myself... I'm just wanting to hear of other peoples experiences of moving on after a divorce/long term relationship.

Any replies appreciated!

J x

OP posts:
bluetrampolines · 27/05/2018 07:17

Enjoy it. Watching with interest. Getting divorced and cant imagine dating or feeling anything ever again.

Great idea for a thread.

Scott72 · 27/05/2018 07:22

Enjoy it, but don't do anything rash. This intense infatuation is only a temporary phase.

JennieBean · 27/05/2018 07:34

This is why I wanted perspective, I'm in no rush to do anything, if anything was to happen I'd want it to be something that progressed naturally rather than being rushed.

J x

OP posts:
fannycraddock72 · 27/05/2018 07:47

I think when you’ve been through a break up whether amicable or not you seen things differently in terms of a new relationship.

For me I went in to my relationship with my new DP with the attitude of enjoying the moment and not over thinking anything. if it didn’t work out i’d be ok, I survived the break up of my marriage after 25 years and cope perfectly well on my own.

Hope it all works out for you.

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