Made a mistake with one night stand haven't I?

[charlieflipped]

So there is a guy a know through my place of work, he's our customer so see him regularly, Def chemistry there between us and a bit of a build up so last night after seeing him he out socially with a group I went back to his and slept with him.

All lovely and he's a good guy told me I was welcomed to stay and sleep when he got up at 7am for work ( I didn't ) when we left he gave me a kiss etc but didn't ask for my number or anything.

I was a idiot wasn't I? This is now just going to become a drunken shag as and when isn't it?

Sorry am I the only one to think it's a bad sign he didn't ask for her number?

"In the week" is not the same as "for a week" , butterflykisses . Whose low standards are you on about?

Ok so some point during the week when he can be bothered. Like I said low standards.

He's got your contact details already. If he doesn't ask you for a date I think you should brush up your CV and get another job. You have both been unprofessional. Does your employer have a professional Code of Conduct/Relationships at Work Policy. If he does't contact you maybe it's because he's a good guy who has realised he's overstepped the mark professionally?

OP last posted only 4 hours after she last saw him Butterflykisses!

Um, seems a bit drastic to advise she finds another job if he doesn't offer her a date! I mean, if she gets a follow-up date she can stay in the job, can she? If it's the type of job where this matters, whether it's a ONS or a burgeoning relationship is surely irrelevant, no?

And Butterflykisses, if he'd taken her number but then never called her, that would be high standards, would it?

Standards would have been asking him out and dating before shagging him would it not?

There's nothing wrong in casual sex.

I don't understand what low standards you're referring to Butterfly ?

There's nothing wrong with casual sex i agree if that's what they both wants . Seems the op doesn't though. Low standards as in someone not asking for your number because they know where you work! AFTER you've slept with them. If someone doesn't ask for your number they are not interested.

do u work in a pub by any chance op?

So were he to ask for a date next time he sees her, she should say no for the sake of "standards", Butterfly? I don't think taking/not taking a number makes a difference in this case as they know each other - he was off to work, might have been in a rush and not thought of it - but he didn't boot her out. I wouldn't be prepared to leave someone in my house, personally.

Eh, it's probably not turning into anything, but sometimes things do.

I think I made a mistake and shouldn't of done it, but I like him and think it was going to happen at some point. Just it shouldn't of happened that way and I should not of went back to his.

He doesn't work with me and it won't be a issue with my job, I will most prob bump into him next weekend so will just have to wait and see and chalk it up to experience

If you'd like to see him again for a proper date ask him out when you see him next. Maybe he didn't ask for your number as he assumes he'll find you on social media or you'll find him? Plus he'll see you again through your work.

Another one here - my marriage started as a ons. He's sat next to me on the sofa, in just his pants (because he's too hot) watching a video about chickens. I bloody love him.

i dont see why this would have blown your chances. If hes interested in you anyway and he had a good time, then this isnt going to make him uninterested anymore.

If he wasnt interested then youd have found out sooner or later anyway.

You had a shag. you dont need to overthink it

My dp was supposed to be a ONS. Well that's all I wanted. 5 years later. I still can't get rid of him
My DP was going to be a ONS as well. After nearly 30 years together and two adult children we are still having a lot of fun!

I don't know how old you are op, but it seems quite a lot of younger people (25 and under I guess) don't seem to ask for numbers anymore, any links made are more social media based ime. My DP didn't have my number for a while when we first started dating as we would message on snapchat instead. I wouldn't immediately write it off as a bad thing.

Late 30's he's early 40's I know he doesn't use social media and he doesn't actually really ever have his phone in his hand.

I'm just going g to have to go with he didn't ask for number as knows he will see me again

And your tight if he's interested this won't make any difference I just don't want to fall into the regular casual shag with him as I know I would get hurt

Only you can control that OP. Ask him if he fancies going for a quiet drink just the two of you it if he invites you round to his suggest out instead. Make it clear you aren't looking for fwb or a fuck buddy and if he likes you and is a good guy, night wrong matter either way.
If he would have dated you buy won't now you've slept with him then he isn't worth your time. Hopefully last night was good fun, worse case scenario that's perfectly acceptable as it is

My DH was a ONS, I really liked him but panicked the next morning at ONS parting protocol and just said “bye then”. Marriage, Two kids and 25 years later here we are, very happily married.

I married my ONS within a year, 17 years ago.

If you know where he lives, why not pop him a note asking him to go out for a date and leave your telephone number.

Bite the bullet. You aren't kids!

Just ask the mother fucker out on a date FFS!!!!

Slightly drunk sorry!

I am going to go against the grain and suggest that the OP doesn't do anything. If he wants to see her and date her, he will ask her out. Men go for what they want.

Just be nice and normal.