Grumpy husband

[rhianmillymoo]

Hi all, my first post !

I have a super grumpy husband. 16w pregnant with our first child. I have two boys from a previous relationship.

I'm struggling with fatigue but next week I am taking my boys away for a week just the three of us.

My husband slept on the sofa last night so I could get a good nights sleep. (I didn't) the majority of times it's me sleeping on the sofa so he can get a good sleep.

This morning at 08:00, he comes into the bedroom asks me what I am doing (woke me up) and then tells me the boys haven't had their breakfast, and gets into bed! Basically forcing me to get up.

You would think, he'd let me have a lie-in wouldn't you! He's now fast asleep and I'm on my own downstairs with a load of housework to do.

So my first question is: What’s with the sofa sleeping?

What’s his day like, work-wise? And yours? Are you both working FT?

Yes, mine too.

I mean, my first question is why you're not sharing a bed.

Why can’t he get the children breakfast?

I am a bad sleeper anyway. He snores occasionally , so sometimes I go to sleep on the sofa. He complains and gets cross at me because I turn over a lot in bed. Again another reason why I sleep on the sofa.

He works from home a lot, and drives out to visit customers too. But he doesn't work long, ridiculous hours. I don't work, but I have the two children to look after.

I just can't believe he literally got into bed knowing it would mean I have to get up. He hasn't given me one lie-in since I was pregnant. Not one.

To be honest 8am is a lie in in our house 😀
Maybe he didn't sleep well on the sofa and thought you would've had a decent sleep in the bed?

No. He didn't even ask. He just said the boys hadn't had brekkie. He knows I'm
Suffering with exhaustion in this pregnancy but apparently I'm 'taking the piss'

Sounds like he considers your dc entirely your responsibility.

Well, he’s going to have a huge wake-up call with your DC on the way. Your two kids have been your responsibility. So that’s quite shitty. Will he wake up and give brekkie to his DC but not the other two interlopers from your previous relationship?
I’d say get counselling before this baby shows up. Not because you’re doomed. Not in the least. But you need to iron out issues.
I’m married to a grump, so I have lots of sympathy for you. But my grump has his very supportive, helpful side. It bothers me that your DP isn’t honouring your pregnancy. Pregnancy is bloody exhausting! I never had the bloom or the glow. Knackered from stem to stern, start to finish. How are your iron levels OP?