Our relationship is going through a difficult patch and has been for a while. He has depression, was under the crisis team due to suicide risk, but discharged earlier this year. Thry recommended talking therapy and medication (I think it was either or both) but hes not seen his GP about it. He's not working and generally quite low, several other physical health problems, and issues relating to his old job where he potentially needs to take them to a tribunal. However he does have a small support network (family members) as well as me.
I have a lot on my plate, in the middle of ongoing work to my house, really busy job, kids and so on. I don't have any family and for various reasons have lost touch with friends. So pretty much on my own.
Next week I was meant to be getting sonething done at home. I was off work today to prepare. This afternoon I found out it's not happening. Great. I've also had my neighbours making a noise nuisance all day (their kids are still screaming outside now even though it's 9pm!), tried to complete a couple of jobs today myself and couldn't because stuff was broken etc. It's just been a really shitty frustrating pointless day and everything has got on my nerves.
So he turns up and I say I've had a really frustrating day. While we're talking I look outside and notice other neighbours gardener has trimmed their hedge and left all the bits in my garden. So had a bit of a rant about that.
Anyway he says why am I so annoyed, I explain the whole lot of it that's happened today and how fed up abd frustrated I am. He doesn't respond. We sit there in silence for 20 mins before he gets up and leaves with the parting shot that he'll see me when I'm in a less shitty mood and how it's all about me and I never think anyone else has problems.
Which I feel is a bit unfair. I have supported him through a lot of shit that most others wouldn't have put up with (court cases etc) now I'm not looking for a medal but equally I feel he can't expect me to be a ray of sunshine all the time, can he?