Single & Fabulous? More like Single & Pathetic!

[Mellodrama]

Me again...

3 weeks post-breakup and feeling so low 😔

I feel so lonely 😞 I just know there aren't many nice decent guys around so am really afraid I have pushed away a good thing 😔

I'm 35, a widow, with 3 kids, who the heck else is going to want me?! 😔 All I wanted, craved, from ex DP was attention and to stop standing in his exes corner (she left him and their kids for the man she is now married to). Everything else about him though was good, what if I never find that again? 😞 I feel even worse because he's made me feel everything was all my fault, due to my anxieties and insecurities 😔 Is he right? I'm terrified of reaching 40 single 😞 I know that sounds pathetic, as I like to think of myself as this independent, strong woman, single and fabulous, Carrie Bradshaw! But in truth, my heart is breaking 😔

There is still time for you to be with someone new. Think you need longer than 3 weeks to take the time and build yourself back up again. Am sure there are lots of lovely things you could offer someone new, when you're ready to.

What's so magical about 40? Honestly it ain't no thing.

Not having his attention or support are huge issues, whatever his other qualities.

It hasn't been long, give yourself some time.

What terrifies you of being single? Is just the fear of something different?

Sorry you feel this way. But it's very soon after a break up to be jumping back in to dating and already feeling despair. You are a whole person now, with or without a boyfriend/partner.

Why not distract yourself and remember who you are and what you have to offer? Lots of things to try:

1. Choose a hobby/sport that you've always wanted to do and get started. Something just for you.
2. Plan a trip, with or without the kids (if you have childcare)
3. Spend more time with your girlfriends this month
4. Read more books
5. Challenge yourself with one thing that you think is hard
6. Do something creative in your free time (painting/choir/sewing).

I'd also cut back on the emojis when you do start dating someone again! They can be a bit distracting to your actual message.