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Advice please

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OhMyLordyLordy · 24/05/2018 17:08

my h started taking himself off to stay with OW recently telling me he was working away. this is not the first time. I found out and asked him to move out. He did. He won't leave us alone though. He has been abusive for years only I didn't see it, I thought i was not good enough and if i tried harder I would make him happy. When he gets bored he fills his time abusing me. Since he has left he rings up to be abusive when he is bored. He also comes to the house. It's very intimidating. Is there anything I can do to keep him away? The house is in joint names.

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Costacoffeeplease · 24/05/2018 17:09

Call the police?

Lemonyknickers · 24/05/2018 17:15

If you have no kids together then change phone numbers/block him. If the house is fully yours inform him in writing (via email) that it is private property, he is not welcome and to cease all contact. If he breaks that you then call the police. They like you to have proof you have made it clear as it makes it easier for them to act. Don't let him play his games. Practice grey rock for when he does contact you, as he probably will.

Lemonyknickers · 24/05/2018 17:17

And well done for kickoff him to the curb Flowers

OhMyLordyLordy · 24/05/2018 17:30

Thanks @Lemonyknickers. The house is in joint names and he seems to take pleasure in the distress it causes DD. Googling grey rock.

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Fannybaws52 · 24/05/2018 17:38

Go see a solicitor and every time he threatens you, record it. Cal 101 and report it. Get a record going so that when you divorce there is evidence against his fitness for custody.

Fight back! Block his number. Why is he getting access to your daughter before you've secured custody for yourself??

See solicitor to get him out legally and then ignore him. Pathetic abuser who needs to rip you apart to feel good. Get angry, get custody and change the locks after you've had legal advice!

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