We have been together since 2003, I thought everything was great, happy relationship, no major problems at all and then suddenly in january this year he tells me he is depressed (was put on medication and is seeing a councellor once a week) he then tells me he no longer wants to be with me, tunred from loving and affectionate to cold, distant and unfeeling in the blick of an eye. I left for a month to let him clear his head.
We eneded up getting back together, then a few weeks went by and he did it again, we still spoke over the phone every night/whatsapp and I was under the impression we were working things out, I came back for the third time two weeks ago and today he has done it again saying he wants me out of his life, I told him he throws me away everytime he feels down, he replied that he does, and that he is having a meltdown and wants to be alone. He has once again told me to leave.
At first I wanted to fight for us, because I know depression is a mental illness, I knew he wasn't himself, that it wasn't him talking but now I know that I have to walk away and leave him to it. I told him today that he is using his depression as an excuse to get me to leave, he replied that he knows he is. I asked him how it would help if we were no longer together, he said he just wants to be single and that I have done nothing wrong.
I just wanted to ask because I have never had experience with someone who is depressed before, is what he is doing a usual thing? as in, wanting to be alone? throwing away a long term relationship? two days ago he told me he loved me and we had sex, today he wakes up and wants me gone. I asked why we got back together in the fisrt place he replied because I wanted to, he is just throwing everything in my face like it is my fault he is depressed.