My partner and I have been together for 18 mths. We've known from very early on that we were serious however he's financially in a very bad position. As a result of my cretinous exDH, I won't consider making things more permanent until he's more financially secure. He's setting up his own business and has been since I met him. The problem is he's not made a penny yet. He's sold everything he owns and borrowed money to make it work and yet it's still not happened. He is due some money soon from a pension and we decided to go on holiday, however he's now saying he can't come with us for the full trip.
Basically I've run out of patience for it all. I'm not particularly money orientated but I want to buy a house and get married. Hell, I want to go on holiday or out for a meal without worrying that it's putting him under pressure. When we discuss it he accuses me of not being supportive. That hurts as I'm not making demands, just being clear about how I want our future to go. It all got a bit unpleasant earlier and I felt really disappointed at a few of his comments. He's a terrific human: kind, clever, funny and emotional. However he's obsessive and can be very negative when challenged about it.
I realised today that our relationship has not moved any further along since this time last year. I adore him but I don't want to be in limbo forever...